Why does this bother me now

Question

I have a 10 year old son, and have raised him by myself, (typical dead beat dad thing), Now Im married to a great guy, and everyone asks what does my son think, and if his real father is still in the picture, even if they asked me a month before we got married, they ask again, like all of a sudden his 'father' is going to change.

Also, do you think its rude for someone, to ask if my son sees his father... people like who work at his dentist or dr.

For some reason its upsetting me now.

Answer 1

lol...I'm not laughing at you, I'm laughing at the ignorance of these people. Tell them that it is none of their business whatsoever and that you would appreciate it if they didn't talk about such things in front of your son. It would infuriate me and they would know it. But hey, that's just me....I would ask them what their relationship with their parents are like. Turn the tables.

Good luck with this

Answer 2

When visiting the dentist for instance, if they ask your son about his father you could intervene by asking " Does this have any relivance to my son's treatment? ".

You could take the denist, doctor or whom ever usually asks, to one side & simply tell them that their questioning of your son, regarding his absent father offends you greatly & being as your son is a miner at present you'd prefer it if they didn't bring the subject up to your son in future consultations.

Good Luck. X :-)

Answer 3

i went thru all this last year. So annoying and no one's business. people are nosey, you can't stop that. My son hates when people ask him questions about our lives and his dad's. It's not for them to know.  

Answer 4

Oh, people probably are just being nice although it doesn't come off that way. I wouldn't ask because it's none of my business. I guess the reason they are asking is to make sure you haven't deliberately kept your son from his bio father in favor of your new husband. Just smile and say "My son's Dad is welcome to see him when he wants."

Answer 5

Yes it rude of these people to ask about your sons father , you really need to get this sorted out..next time anyone asks you that question , take a deep breath then tell  them it's not something you like to talk about outside your immediate family...after a while people will get the message...and don't make any apologies , remember it's none of their business.

Answer 6

Just tell them its a touchy subject and you would prefer to not talk about it.  

Answer 7

People in our world today are so nosey.  It is very rude for anyone to ask you this, it is NONE of their business.  It is probably bothering you now because you are married and these people have asked you over and over.  Next time tell them to mind their own business.