Why does this guy always look at me?

Question

I am married and have 3 children (adults). My husband lives overseas. We, my husband and I, don't get on well, and our present living condition suits us. (It's too late now for a divorce)

Lately, like since 6 months ago, this younger man, (I don't know if he is married, he probably is, because he's very good looking, has no ring on his finger) has been giving me "the looks". Every time he sees me, which is quite often, he looks at me and holds my gaze, and I'm the one that breaks the "gaze". I look away. Plus, I'm getting to have feelings for him now, and make a point of going by his area every day.

This is bad, don't you think, that I am getting my emotions all up and running?

What do I do.....please help!

Answer 1

Lots of guys flirt. Sometimes it's because they want to be with you, but a lot of the time it's just to get attention. So you could be getting all worked up when this guy is only looking for attention. Don't feel bad, though, because I get caught up in this idiocy all the time ;0) (thinking that someone likes me, only to find out they're already married).

Why do you say it's too late for a divorce, though? It's never too late. If you would like the freedom to date someone else, it only makes sense to end a marriage that's on paper only. But I wouldn't divorce just because this one guy is making goo-goo eyes at me.

Answer 2

I don't know what looks you're talking about, but there's probably just something in his eye... or you're so old a decrepit that it hurts to look at you, so he has to squint.

Answer 3

You are only having feelings for him because he is giving you attention that you are not getting from your husband.  You don't even know the guy to have any feelings that are worth anything.

Do not go around his area.  Just because you and your husband are not getting along well, you took vows when you married.  You are still married.  

You really really need to talk to your husband and see if you can work it out, then if you cannot, then get a divorce.  It is not right to even think about another man unless your unattached.  You know that.  You are grown and have grown children of your own.  What do you mean it is too late for a divorce?   I have never heard that.

Nothing is ever too late, and to me, it is not too late to work on your marriage.  Both of you have to put 100% effort into it.  Try to make it work.  You should stay away from another man if you know you will be tempted to cheat on your husband.  It is still cheating because you are not divorced.

Answer 4

Oh gosh...get out of that situation right now!!

DO NOT go by his place anymore!! It's very wrong and it will TOTALLY RUIN your marriage and your family if you have a relationship w/him. I cannot stress enough how important it is not to see him anymore!!

I know this might offend you, but you're being really really selfish. You're only thinking of yourself, not your kids or your husband.

Answer 5

he probably thinks your purdy

Answer 6

Marry him. It will be the only way to get him to stop looking at you.  

Answer 7

Think of it this way..

Your a grown women with 3 Grown children who are now adults!

You need to tell that man who always looks at you to basically (F)(U)(C)(K) off.

So go up to him and tell him to stop staring at you then walk away before he can talk to you. If he does talk to you, you might get second opinions. Just start Yelling some stuff he does when you walk away so you can't hear him.

Answer 8

If he is really interested in you, he would've made a move by now. You say it's been 6 months! Do you wear your wedding ring? If not, start wearing it from now.

He is just getting a thrill out of looking at you. He probably is married and is looking for fun, so beware and don't get into a risky situation that will eventually break your heart. You cannot afford that, at this stage in your life.

And yes, stop going by his area NOW!

Answer 9

I've been reading up the answers, and most of them have said what I am going to say,

that is, other than mimimarquez..... what's with her? She's got your question all wrong.....he has something in his eyes, so he squints at you? girl go back to school, your english needs polishing.....

Now back to your question:

He's up to no good. Run for your life. If you look anything like your avatar, then he probably thinks your attractive and wants a fling and because you are not responding (6 months!) he does not know where to go from here.

Answer 10

maybe you should think of a seperation and see what can happen with the other man. or just break the ice with "him" and find out if anything can really happen .