Why does this happen..is this normal?

Question

After I saw my dad's family after 71/2 years, they all ignored me and when I went back to the USA from Canada, I didnt miss them at all..My cousin from india was in the usa but he stayed with his sister in new york..I saw his sister after 81/2 years and i saw him after 31/2 years and now he wants me to come visit india in december..After I came back from new york, i always feel sad because they took care of me..although things were pretty hectic for them, they still managed to make sure I didnt feel bored..why is it that i miss them all the time and i dont miss my dad's family at all.. is it okay to miss family..i gave my cousin from india my mobile number and he said he will call me from new delhi but he never did..

Answer 1

I think that people get caught up in life and they forget about whats really important, Family no matter what side or where they come from. We are all so busy anymore that no one takes the time to really get to know any body anymore.

  Remember when we were young and we'd all meet at grandma's house for sunday dinner or which every holiday it was and the next year you were at the other side of the family's house to gather. People just don't gather anymore they are all to busy.

  I think thats whats wrong with our society today and why our children are getting into so much trouble. Nobody gathers the family anymore. Well I do and I think it is very impotant to raise healthy stable responceible children in these crazy times.

Answer 2

I feel that way as well. I miss myfriend and my pseudo-family much more than my natal family. I think it has to do with how comfortable I am with them.

I feel more relaxed, connected, and much more taken-care-of with my friends. We have a strong bond.

I'm guessing it's not too different for you.

Don't worry about it. I did and it did me no good.

I've come to accept it and enjoy the differences now.

Answer 3

Yes, it is okay to miss your family, and if you want to know why they treat you like this--ignoring you, not answering emails or phone calls, etc.--ask them to their face. Say to them something like, "What have I done to you to make you treat me like some outsider? Like it or not, I am part of the family and I want an answer." Don't give in if they get this expression on their face like you hit them or something.  If they answer you with what you think is a fair answer, let it go. If not, just walk away from them, but DO NOT let them see you cry. If you must do that, do it in your room where they can't see you. Personally, I think you would be better off without them. My grandfather on my step-father's side of the family never talked to me in all the years I knew him, and I learned early not to fight about it. I treated him the same way, and he's been gone now about 40 years, but I don't miss him at all. The ones I miss are his sons and daughters who have passed on and who  treated me as a true member of the family.

Answer 4

. Yes, it's completely normal for relatives to 'bond' with each other. That's how we, the human race, survived thousands of years ago.

But in our modern era, relatives often live miles away from each other and have little in common.  Think of these relatives as just strangers to whom you have little to say.

They are NOT really your 'friends' so do NOT expect them to be friendly.