Why does your fiance, father of one child and another on the way, keep their phone from you. ?

Question

I have looked through his phone probably three times overall, getting paranoid because he just never makes me feel confident with anything. The last time i looked through his phone he had naked pics of girls that him and his boys send back and forth which of course blown me away. Now he won't let me do anything at all with his phone. Before this he can NEVER be with out his phone. Its impossible. He always has messages and phone calls from people. Are status on working is, he works all day, sometimes are daughter doesn't see him at night from work, and I stay home and take care of my daughter. So being lucked in house all day makes this all worse. But My fiance just has been acting weird. He doesn't talk to me about anything that bothers me with my jealousy, ever. This is a problem, he just simply doesn't talk to me, i write him letters and he calls and acts as if I never wrote anything to him, like its never happened. But I'm just getting tired of not getting any comfort, when I'm telling him that i need it, why must he ignore what i need. I'm starting to really feel alone, he's just not here for this. Even if its ridiculous to him. Which the funny thing is, he knows exactly what kind of comfort i need he used to be a freak about his jealousy. I left him for nine months over it. Now that he's not as bad, he cant help me, and it seems like he does what the h**l he wants. And I'm not even jealous like crazy, its just normal stuff that's going to bother a women, you don't want your fiance being touched by another women that he works with in short shorts, you dont want them looking at naked pics of girls no matter what the story is, staring a attracted girls in front of you. Stuff like that is pretty much i see not jealousy, it just shouldn't happen, and he gets pissed and doesn't talk to me about it and tell me something like. "I love you don't worry about them" Something, he just wont do it, I'm really hurt that he can't do this for me, he's making me worry.

Answer 1

Well, when you're pregnant, it's normal to feel threatened and insecure about other women. But he should be reassuring you, not making you feel worse.

Stop trying to get his attention, my dear. Not worth it, obviously. Instead focus on your children, and as soon as you can, just tell him face to face that you don't think the relationship is working anymore and that it's time to end it. Even if you are pregnant .... much better to be on your own and happy than to be not sure if you are on your own or not.  

Answer 2

if ANY 1 keeps their ph from u, that's a BIG red flag.

Answer 3

You have answered your own question. Sorry but no-one has the right to 'help themselves' to another persons phone and look through it. This is a Gross invasion of privacy and is also the reason why he keeps it 'safely' away from you now.