Why doesn/t my friend understand?

Question

Okay, here's the deal,

School's approaching soon times so I've been getting tutored for Calculus for the past two weeks and my friend knows that. Anyways, last week my friend told me he was arranging this big bball game and I said yes. I know I should have reminded him about me being tutored that day but I forgot because I know he knew. Anyways, yestreday he called and told me to come and said I couldn't because I gotta go to tutoring. He got all amd at me and he doesn't udnerstand that Calculus is a lot more important to me these days than basketball. Seriosuly, like I know calculus is hard and we are just about to start integration and I really need to go to my tutors. So the question I ask you, is it fair for him to be mad at me? Should he not understand that school is really important to me? I mean we are literally close friends and he and I are real serious about school (don't ask why, we went thru a lot academically speaking) so he should understand my situation but he didn't over the phone. I told him nicely and he was all mad and hung up before he even said bye...Anyways, any advise here?

Answer 1

Apologize for your part in the mix-up (not reminding him about your tutoring), calmly (ie don't start a fight about it, just try to say you're sorry and you didn't mean to mess his plans up).

Then, let it go.  This shouldn't be a huge problem -- he will get over it (and if he doesn't, that's his fault, not yours).

Answer 2

no its no t fair for him to be mad at u    maybe school is more important to U and he just wont accept that because hes the other way around....... did that answer you r question?Glad that i could attemp t to help

Answer 3

he shouldnt be mad at you but has this happened before?  he invites u somewhere and u turn him down because of tutoring?  if so then he might jsut feel left out.  school is important but u still need balance.  as long as ur still hanging out with him i dont see why he should be mad.

Answer 4

He's being a jerk and you should tell him that. Calculus is more important right now and it's his problem if he doesn't understand. You can't make him understand, sorry 'bout that, but you can tell him how you feel.