Why doesnt anyone want to give up a seat for a pregnant woman anymore??

Question

Hi guys, Im 24 weeks and 3 days pregnant at the moment and ive got a rather large bump (I look larger than my dates and have done since the beginning of my pregnancy!

I have to get public transport to and from work every day which is a pain at the best of times! I can only get one of two busses home which are every half hour and when my bus arrives it is usually packed and no one wants to give you a seat you just get looked at as if to say no way am I giving my seat up for no one! Last night was one of the few times there was one seat left at the back of the bus it was in an awkward position but I still went for it I shouldnt have really as it was rammed up there and there were no handrails to hold on to steady myself I accidentally stepped on someones foot when the bus lurched forward and I fell I almost fell into someones lap and they just looked at me as if to say what a stupid cow!! I mean dont people see a pregnant woman struggling and think hmmm maybe I should give up my seat

Answer 1

Noone has any morals anymore.

As a preg woman I gave up my seat to an old person once as nobody wanted to get up! noone ever got up for me on a packed bus not even when I was holding a newborn baby!

It gets worst.

Answer 2

It boils down to one word:  Selfish.

I'm 30 weeks pregnant, and no one has done anything nice for me, such as offer me their seat.  In fact, the black guy running the storeroom downstairs refuses to lift the 40 lb liquid  nitrogen tank for me because he has a "bad back".  Lazy piece of ****.  It's his job to lift it, not mine.  Nobody has made any concessions for me being pregnant; I've done everything myself.

I hate to be petty, but this pisses me off so much that I have ceased doing nice things for others, because I never get anything in return.

Answer 3

The world is full of rude people. People don't have any common decency and respect anymore. This is one of humanity's big down falls. No one holds doors or even says excuse me anymore. Sad...

Shows you something you want to make sure to teach to your new child...

Answer 4

I suppose you cannot have it both ways... I am a woman and I would rather have equality and struggle on than have anyone give me their seat... I would feel bad even accepting it as I was the person who choose to get pregnant... older people and disabled people yes fine but pregnancy is a choice

Answer 5

Just ask if anyone is willing to give up their seat for a pregnant woman.  You'll shame at least one person into doing so.  Or you can buy badges that say things about giving up your seat for the elderly, disabled and pregnant.  Or stand at the front of the bus and discuss with the driver or an elderly person (who you will loudly point out shouldn't have to give up their seat) peoples general lack of observation outside their own sphere.  

I have to say, if I need a seat, I ask.  Hand on belly and if necessary, mention how dizzy I feel.  Done with a smile on my face and with a genuine please, it's never failed.

Answer 6

it's the price of equality.

fortunately, there are still a few lads who believe in chivalry. rare, but we're still around.

Answer 7

I once got on a train which took over an hour and had to stand up for the majority of the journey, feeling very lightheaded and unsteady.  Nobody offered me their seat even though i was obviously pregnant.  I understand that everyone has paid to use the public transport and its not like i ever expect someone to give up their seat but what happened to human nature and people being giving??  It wouldnt hurt someone to let a pregnant lady sit down (and i did look pregnant not fat im 5' and had a HUGE bump but no fat anywhere else).  I agree its just a 'look the other way' kind of society today apart from the odd few lovely people who do still put others needs ahead of their own selfishness.

Answer 8

No love they dont, which is unfortunate. When i was about 4 months pregnant, i gave up my seat for a lady who looked like she was about 8 months gone as no-one cld be bothered to get off their backsides to give her their seat. I think their attitude is "u're only pregnant, its not like u're dying or anything". Bunch of selfish morons!!

Good Luck with baby. x

Answer 9

I know, the british people are getting so ignorant! i am actually ashamed to be british.

When i was pregnant, i enede up having to stand up on the bus cos people just sat there looking at you and some man walked past me and hit my belly with his bag!

And it doesnt get any better when you have the baby either, i think its worse!

They all take up the pram bays and the bus driver turns round to you and says... they are full up, even when these people could just move to a different seat!

I have got really mouthy with them now though, you have to be.

Answer 10

Whenever I'm on a train/shuttle/etc with hubby and there's any woman - pregnant or not - he will get up and offer his seat. He just does it out of respect. You're right, most people today DON'T have respect. It's sad! If I was you, I would just politely ask if anyone would kindly give up there seat because you're not feeling that well. I'm sure someone will jump to it! :)

Answer 11

Some people do - my fiance always will give a seat up for a pregnant lady or someone elderly etc, but thats just the way he was raised - to be a gentleman.

Sadly, a lot of people don't bother instilling manners into their children these days.

I know what you mean - I find it the same when I'm going around town with my son in a pushchair - people can't even be bothered to hold a door open despite the fact they can see I'm struggling.  Its a sad reflection on how society has become.

Answer 12

I sympathise with you, I think it's just the way times have changed! If I see someone standing like a pregnant woman or an elderly person, I'll always offer my seat to them, it's just polite to do so!! People seem to have just become so ignorant over the past few years and if you get on the tube / bus and you are less able to stand, it's amazing how many people sitting down suddenly become extremely interested in their papers / books/ the view outside!!

Answer 13

I always offer my seat to the elderly or pregnant women, however usually i get looked at like a piece of scum (by the elderly)!

Also i always make sure that the pregnant lady has a defo baby bump, if i am not sure i wont offer, cos it would be embarrasing for us both.

Answer 14

well look at the bright side.. now you have an excuse to tell your husband not to let you go on a public transport without him.. or not to go on a public transport. period! its the husband's fault.. geez its always our fault.. don't worry girl.. there still others out there.. not too many.. but we exist.. under the shadows of pregnant women such as yourself.. blamed for not having a car of our own.. but offers a lifetime of support.. just think of it that there's always a bright side to everything.. ^_^

Answer 15

I have never been pregnant and I haven't taken the bus in about 10 years, but I kind of understand where you're coming from.

It seems like it's becoming a trend to be rude. I injured my ankle about a year ago, and I was appalled by how badly other people behaved.

Random people in the grocery store didn't even bother to keep the door open when they would see me walking behind on crutches, and some brats thought it was funny to watch me wrestle with bags and try to pick up the crutches. Oh, and I totally enjoyed the annoying sounds and comments that I was slow when people walked behind me. I always kept to the side so that they could just walk by me if they were in a hurry, but I guess commenting was more fun.

I live in a good area of Chicago, so it's not like it's an income thing. I travel a lot for work, and I've noticed the same trend everywhere, around the US, and in Western and Eastern Europe. It's really disheartening. And it's not just kids who act rude,it's middle-aged people too, so you can't blame it on modern parenting.

I guess we're becoming alienated from other people, and most people have no respect for others.

Answer 16

I think some of it has to do with the fact that women are always going on about equal rights and those women that I see bitching about lads holding doors open for them because they 'can do it themselves'.  I blame those people.

I stood pretty much every day on the bus whilst I was pregnant right up until I left work.  No one offered me a seat and the only time I sat down was when there was an empty seat.

If you want to sit down, ask one of the younger people who are sat in the spots at the front of the bus which are for the elderly.  They will feel obliged to move.

Answer 17

there are few people left who actually aren't completely self-absorbed and even fewer people who have manners. Their problem is that they don't see a pregnant woman struggling, they see another person that they will have to go out of their way for and that means getting off their lazy butt and actually having to move out of their comfy seat. You're no different than the triatholon trainer jogging in place next to you in these people's eyes. But next time you do get rare courtosey, say an extra special thank-you to the courteous and probably under-appreciated person :)

Answer 18

yes some people dont really care,im 38 weeks pregnant .and just worked until a couple days ago,i would not expect anyone to give up there seat really ,maybe they are sick or not feeling well,or elderly,i dont mind standing ,but i guess im lucky cause i have felt great my whole pregnancy,but i agree with others,it will teach you to have your kids respect others and treat people the way you want to be treated.

Answer 19

Well - it gives you a chance to reflect on how you're going to raise your child!!

I think this latest generation (of current 16-25 yr olds) have been raised by LAZY parents! I mean it's embarrassing to be even CLOSE to this age group!

They're rude-lazy-obnoxious - have no respect for their elders - or ANYONE (ie: pregnant woman on the bus) for that matter. They don't want to work - they expect their mommies and daddies to do EVERYTHING for them...............last I checked potty training ended around the age of 3? So why are people still wiping their kids butts when they're 20?

It's sickening.

Oh - and heaven forbid you "SPANK" them for bad behaviour - let's reward them!! and we wonder why society is going to the crapper

Answer 20

When I was pregnant I was only given a seat ONCE! Some people are just selfish. This is what my mum did to get seats (I didnt have the guts to do it lol) she used to stand nearish someone, sigh and pat her bump. It used to work for her!

Good Luck

Answer 21

i no when my mom was pregnate with my sister , it was awfull people are so rude! they wont give up a seat to no one , i think itt discrasfull , if i saw a pregnate woman on a bus or public transport , i'd give her my seat!

Answer 22

It's all a result of our declining standards - I didn't get you pregnant so why should I give up my seat is a fairly typical attitude these days.  It would also help if the transport companies would put on extra carriages, coaches etc so that all fay paying passengers could actaully sit down.  Lastly, pregnancy is not an illness nor does it make you infirm.  If you are so concerned about getting a seat then plan your travel arrangements accordingly.

Answer 23

I can totally relate to what you are saying.  I try to remember that for some people, they may just be afraid of appearing sexist, or offensive.  On the other hand, it's become a world where we are much more self involved and selfish.  I had a similiar situation when I was 14 months pregnant (ok it was 8----but I looked and felt like 14!!!!)  and the ONLY person to give up a seat was an elderly gentleman with a cane.  Come on!  No one felt the least bit motivated to respond in kind...

Answer 24

because people are rude and don't care what happens to you they just want a seat on the bus to get home and they think you should get a cab or have your own car since your pregnant  i would give up my seat if i saw a pregnant woman i mean come on you expect them to stand up in a bus while holding up a baby COME ON PEOPLE!

Answer 25

Ugh. Same reason as people let doors close in others' faces when going into a public place, instead of holding them open. Very few people have manners anymore. Some jerks feel entitled to a seat, no matter if someone disabled, elderly, or pregnant is in greater need of a place to sit. Sorry you're getting treated so badly by idiots.

Answer 26

i had exactly the same problem, it was a very rare thing when someone gave me their seat and it was mainly an old gentleman that did it.

i don't know what to tell you other than the world is full of rude ignorant people that really should be taught manners as their parents obviously failed to do so.

hope the pregnancy goes well xx