Why don't ALL women know NOT to date married men?

Question

There's at least 25 questions a day about some girl seeing a married man, and she doesn't understand why he won't leave for her, and she loves him and he doesn't pick up his phone, and he gives her things but then goes hom to his kids and wife, and says he's leaving but never does, and and talks about how awful his wife is and how she's totally against him and they never get why he is so unhappy with his wife, and then they give in and give him s*x becuse they feel bad that he's SO mistreated, and then some even dumber ones have their lover's baby and don't understand why he's not there for her, and why it's such a bad thing, and how his wife is angry?

Why don't these girls GET IT?

And THEN they go on for years with some *** and feel so torn up when they break up, as if it was a real relationship, and they can't moveon or function or find someone more worth their time. Why is this?

Answer 1

That is one way to put it.  Another way would be to ask why don't some married men know not to date other women?

I know of a few women who have gotten tangled up with married men, and it's never been pretty.  They were starving for attention, wanting to be desired and needed.  The men gave them all of the above... for awhile.  When it was gone, it was the feelings that they grieved for--I really don't think that the guys were really what mattered.  It's sad, really.

Answer 2

the world may never know

Answer 3

I have been involved with a married man for awhile now.  Imagine the perfect guy in your mind.  He's attentive and is constantly romancing you in ways that you have always hoped for.  He listens to everything you have to say and makes you feel as though you are the greatest woman ever.  He appreciates all the little things you do for him and thoroughly enjoys having s*x with you.  When you try to pull away, he knows exactly what to do to pull you back in.  He gives you little presents for no reason and tells you how beautiful you are.  It is so easy to get hooked on this stuff and to believe everything he says.  By this point, you want to believe that you are as special as he makes you feel.  You want to believe that he will leave his wife and that he is as miserable as he says he is.  Then you find out that he will never leave his wife, that his relationship with her is not as bad as he makes it out to be.  Of course you will end up feeling hurt and torn up because you realize that your relationship has been a lie.  That you are not as special as he has made you feel. If you have never been in this situation, it is hard to understand it.  But once you are in it, it's hard to walk away from.  

Answer 4

yeah it's weird. I agree. And who wants a man who'd cheat on his wife? I always say to my husband... if a man wants to have a fling with me, I couldn't-- not ONLY because I'm married but really, how could I respect a man who screwed around with married women?

Answer 5

I honestly think that these women actually think that these married man will leave their wife.  These women are delusional and believes this married man will leave his wife for her.  She actually believes that his wife treats him bad and this, that, and the other.  They feel that they would be the woman that will make him happier than his current wife and one day that he will see that in her and will leave.  The problem with these women is that if the guy really loved them, why not divorce his wife?  It seems that they can't get beyond that point. It's something about being second fiddle that turns them on I guess.  These women do not value themselves and need validation from a man.  Not just a man...a married man.  They are pathetic.

Answer 6

I don't know why.  Maybe they got attached before they knew he was married.  I did know someone that happened to.   Maybe they are so unsure of themselves that they think this is all they deserve.  Maybe they believe the men's lies  maybe they get in a rut and can't get out who knows why anybody does anything

Answer 7

I'm not a psychologist.  And I've never done any real data analysis.  But I'd be willing to bet the farm that over 75% of those girls that are posting those questions are coming from a single parent (mom) home.

They want so terribly badly to be loved by a man that they set them self up to be used and abused.  We, as a societly, need to teach our daughters just how perfect and precious they are.  If our girls would grow up knowing that there is more to life than squeezing into that size 2 skirt so that the boys will look at them, then this world would be a totally different place.

I'm a father of two young girls.  Nothing scares me more than the thought of them not always knowing just how much they are worth.  And that the 'love' (and I use that word loosely) from a man doesn't change that fact.

Answer 8

if there were less women helping them..there'd be less men cheating...

AMEN!!!

Answer 9

These same women or girls will be the ones later on in life that I asked this question about earlier:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

seriously, check it out...

Answer 10

Who knows there are many possibilities

- maybe they don't really want a relationship and by being with a married guy they have an excuse for not being in one

- maybe they are perpetual victims and like the attention and pity it generates

- maybe they only like something that belongs to someone else

are but a few answers that come to mind

And just realize this everyone is where they really want to be nobody makes them be there but themselves.Maybe that is the challenge they have set for themselves.

But tell me why is it that there is always these dumb questions from some male about p***s size?  

Answer 11

I fell in love with a married man while I was also married.  I know it sounds corny but I really believe he was my soul mate.  I never even believed in that concept before.  I dont regret that relationship one bit, but the end is the same as all the others - when push came to shove he did not leave wife and kids and I am heartbroken.  Do I feel like such an idiot now?  Not really - it was still the greatest relationship of my life and now I have a standard by which to strive for in my next relationship, with someone who is single!!!  Live and learn!

Answer 12

Some women love the roller coaster ride. Some guys actually leave the wife and that gives mistresses everywhere hope. Some women don't really want the marriage to end. Most women in these situations believe that's all they are worth.

Answer 13

They're ho's and can't find a "real single man" (all the good guys are taken).  If these easy girls were not around, the married men wouldn't be in their beds.  (don't take it the wrong way, the guys are equally to blame for the adulteress affair).

Answer 14

for girls its easy to fall for a guy...and remember that guys when in a relationship / married w/ someone and seeing another girl they lie they LIE all the time! I ve been in one of those yrs ago and I believed the guy ! he told me that he was leaving his wife etc...and they slept in separate bedrooms etc... he even showed me his house w/ the separate bedroom ...after I broke up w/ him I laughed at myself how I believed him ! (he just made up that bedroom w/ sheets etc for me)

I learned! Ill never in my life will go out with another man who is engaged/married etc... but back then that was my lesson and I suffered! I fell in love w/ him ! I d kick him to the curb if I could! now thinking back how he mistreated me and lied constantlyy! what a JERK! guys can be very manupilative!

On the other hand : there are millions of Married Women who cheat on their husband! My boyfriend cheated w/ two married women! they wouldnt leave him alone! its disgusting! Now i have to go and get tested for stds... I duno whats wrong with people these days! I just hope that everyone learns from their mistake and dont repeat them!

Answer 15

Because they're DUMB!  I really believe that they deserve everything that they get, and they never get anything good.  It's the code of life, treat others how you would like to be treated.  If he cheats on his wife who he made important vows to, what makes you think he'll be faithful to you?  Are you that special?  Do you have the best &(%!? in the world?  I DON'T THINK SO!  Dumb broads.

Answer 16

Low self esteem is my guess.  They have no self worth and will throw all their energy into anyone who looks their way - even if they are married.

Also, I think some people want to be with someone who is unavailable - I don't know why - but some people can't seem to function in a normal, respectful relationship.

Answer 17

because theu are HOMEWRECKERS!

as if there arent enough single men for the hussies~

and then thyre some that just pray on married men! gross.

Answer 18

Probably for the same reasons the wife believes he loves her and that she is deluded that he wont cheat on her again. Because he is a fantastic manipulator and convincing liar.  Do u consider it is only the mistress he tells what she wants to hear?  That as he is telling the wife he loves her and the other person involved was a mistake, that he is also not telling the other she is the true love and he cannot be without her and is begging her to hold on because he is finding a way to be with her and get married etc?  Im not saying it right.  Just that many of the girls are dupped like the wife.  Many married men do not tell their partners they are married until they have been with them longterm and then she feels hard to break away because she also loves him now and he is now telling her he will leave and be with her.  Like the wives who wait for their husbands to decide who they want and come home.  Its about love.  Although rarely on the mans part.  The married man rarely mistreats the mistress and on most things treats her better than the wife for the duration they are together.  I have never heard of a woman giving *** because she feels bad he is mis treated???  More that he has falsley convinced that person that he is deeply in love with her and she feels that for him. Heck, some actually do love these women and truth be known if werent married with much to loose financially and otherwise. If their was no committment and the guy was single, without committment to choose between the two women , many wives would be left in the dust, and many wives know this.  But yes, if he is living at home with the wife?  Why do you think he doesnt want to be there?

Answer 19

Because good girls like BAD guys.....we always fall for it ALWAYS!!!

The bad guys know how to tell women what they want to hear.....its sad I know but its SO true! Girls will never learn....they want the bad guys and they are just that.....and yes good guys ALWAYS will finish last and that sucks! But aleast they are still out there for us women who fall for everything we want to hear from the bad guys!

Answer 20

Sorry to say but it is "you" who doesn't get it !!

  Look up the meaning of  1. self centered

                                             2. gulable

                                             3. inconsiderate

                                             4. superiority complex

and that only for starters !!