Why don't I attract nice guys?!

Question

Seriously the only guys that have ever liked me were gang bangers or guys who are wannabees. (and sometimes the occasional creepy older guy) and I want nothing to do with those kind of guys. I don't know why they're the only ones that like me. I don't carry myself as a **** or anything, I don't really dress that way. I don't walk around with my thong showing and b***s hanging out. I just want a sweet guy who has a future but for some reason it seems like they only go for the white girls. It pisses me off! I either have a total lowlife of a boyfriend or no man at all. What's going on here?!

Answer 1

You're just in a rut and subjecting yourself to the wrong kind of people. Try focusing on improving yourself first by getting in touch with who you are and what you want to accomplish. When your confidence grows, so does your chances of finding the right person. Good luck!

Answer 2

Yeah girl, I know what you mean. I don't really know why they would be attracted to you. But I'm sure there are lots of nice guys that will like you too. You just have to look harder. A lot of the time, the nice guys are more shy, so maybe being more proactive and putting yourself out there for the nicer types will help.

Good luck!!

Answer 3

Nice guys usually finish last because they are shy and sometimes they need a gentle nudge.  If you are pretty nice guys may be surprised that you are interested and you may be wasting time waiting for them to approach you.  I see questions in singles and dating from shy nice looking guys wondering why they don't have dates.  I am 45 and long gone from the dating scene, but I have a single step daughter who thought the same thing as you.  Sometimes we moms have the solution because we were there once upon a time.  Bad boys are more aggressive and just they like you because you are pretty and it doesn't mean you are a hoochie mama.  They just go for what they want and are not afraid.  Next time you see a nice guy and he doesn't approach you, go up to him and intoduce yourself.  He wont bite you!  Good luck and best to you

Answer 4

you have to go out n get it for yourself. the only people that will come to ya anyway will be NOT GOOD coz they're the only types that do thats stuff

anyway it's not like there is any decent people

Answer 5

I feel for you. it is the same way for me. only black boys want me, or they are troulble makers. it is fustrating, but you need to continue being yourself. sometimes personality has everything to do with it. my sassy personality gets me yelled at or attracts black boys-no offense.  Try new things and get to know new people. it oughta give you luck.

Answer 6

Don't change yourself.

Maybe it's the places you are going to for meeting guys. You might find different types of guys at different places.  

Answer 7

a little nudge or slightly more aggressive approach could help.

Also, white guys alot of times fall for girls that are ffriends first, so maybe just try being friends with guys that you would normally want to date..

Answer 8

Take a moment and reflect on your personality, the way you talk to people, the people you hang out with.....sometimes we send messages that are not overt.  Then take a look at what you call the "nice guys".  See who they hang out with. What girls are they attracted to?  Find ways to involve yourself in groups with the people you want to hang out with.  Don't get upset.  Just investigate and reflect on yourself and your attitude and see what you can do to change things.  Best of luck to you.  The right guy will come along - but I'm here to tell you that you might have to 'STOP' looking....