Why don't I miss my family?

Question

I have a great relationship with my whole family, I'm the baby of the family with older brothers and sisters. We're all really close, like best friends, and I'm able to be really open with my parents about everything. I believe I'm truly blessed to have such a wonderful family. But when siblings have gone travelling, or when I'm away from home for a long amount of time, I don't miss them. I don't love them any less, but I don't feel a desperation to see them. I just get on with life. I still talk to them and see things/expierience moments I'd love to share with them, but emotionally I don't feel deprived at all. Is this really heartless? I feel guilty about the fact I'm like this, I don't understand it! My sister recently moved to the other side of the world and I didn't cry at the airport when everyone else did. I think it's just because I plan to do a lot of travelling in my life and always be on the move so I see the world as a smaller place than they do perhaps.

Answer 1

You choose your friends not your family - just because you are related doesn't mean you need to be in each other 's pockets. You should not feel guilty - they know where you are if they want to get in touch. Going into hysterics because they are moving further away does not mean you don't care. It is, as you say, a small world and getting smaller still with the IT revolution.

Answer 2

It just may be that you don't feel any disconnect when separated from them.  Being from such a large family, you always feel surrounded by people.  It is actually a good thing you're experiencing and I would take it to mean you are very well grounded.  You know there is that family net there to catch you if you make a mistake or misstep.  But not missing them doesn't mean anything bad, it just means you're confident in yourself and your relationship with your family.  Be happy you are blessed with such a cocoon of a loving, happy family, even if it isn't perfect, they sound like someone will always be there for you.  Be happy!

Answer 3

Well i can tell you one thing that you are not alone! I myself am such a person as well. We kinda lose out on things but then again this is a bit of a bonus as we don't really tend to worry, we're more calm, less stressed and can get on with our life easier then other is God forbid some tragedy happened

Good luck