Why don't high school and college students decide to be single until they graduate ?

Question

When I was in high school, my Mom told me I should wait until I graduate high school before I have a girlfriend . Once I started going to the university, she still told me I should wait until I graduate before I have a girlfriend . My psychologist told me the same thing . I let that advice go in one ear and out the other . I decided that if you go through school without a girlfriend, you couldn’t marry a fun person . You had to marry a dud and raise a bunch of little duds . I think it’s tragic to go through high school without a girlfriend . I also think it’s tragic to go through college without a girlfriend . I also think it’s selfish to be unattached for ANY reason . I told my psychologist I shouldn’t be single until I graduate, and he asked me “Why not ?” . I didn’t know what to tell him .

Answer 1

Nothing wrong with being single, but if you wait too long, while everyone else is dating during high school and college, most of the good people are all going to be taken, and you're going to have to select someone from the leftovers...

Answer 2

Everyone can make that choice for themselves .  Being married should be a lifetime commitment , for many people waiting is the the right thing to do ... for others  it's not.

Answer 3

Oh my gosh, I have the same problem. My parents tell me the person that is my boyfriend should be the person I am going to marry. So I have to wait to go to the USA to find a person of my culture and my religion, and find someone there to be my boyfriend, and I can marry them. While yet, I'm a 14 year old girl going to start freshman year in 2 months! How can I go through highschool without a bf?? I think I am going to have 1 secretly. But I totally agree with you in the sense that we should have bfs and gfs through atleast our secondary and post-secondary life. It's just a state of life. It's a learning experience with a female and male. Even our family life book in school says this (about having gfs abd bfs in school), and I go to a catholic school! So some parents should back off.

Answer 4

You have been manipulated by both your mother and psychologist.  Not having a girlfriend or boyfriend until you are finished with college is not natural.  

My first girlfriend was in the 2nd grade.  You're missing out on a LOT of fun.  Go out and find a girl NOW!!