Why don't my feelings matter?

Question

Ok, my then-boyfriend turned fiance used to have his kids ( boys age 5 and 3) on the weekends because his ex-wife worked. But then because of an hours change at his job, he begin to work weekends as well, so his children were now in the care of his mother. Well, his mother began to become verbally abusive to his children and he no longer allowed his children in her home. And even though we were still fairly new into our relationship I begin to care for his children ( who are VERY un-disciplined and un-ruly) on the weekends along with my own two children (girls age 11 and 6). Well now the childrens mother now has the weekends off, which was great for me because then that meant I could enjoy my days off. But him seemed to get offended when I suggested they stay home with their mother until he picked them up after he got off. He said that I should allow the situation to remain the same so as not to cause an argument between his ex-wife and himself.

I have watched children ( neices and nephews) EVERY weekend since I was 9 years old until I had my own children, I am now 31. And then every weekend I was with my children because their father choose to "hangout" on the weekends. Now that their father has grown up a bit he has begun to take our children every weekend.

Am I wrong for FINALLY wanted to have my off days to myself? My fiance is off during the week which leaves him home alone. Why must I use my off days to care for children who do not obey me while their mother enjoys her days off. Don't get me wrong, I love my children ( all 4), but do I need to continue sacrificing my sanity now that she has the weekends off?

Also, his children are now at our house everday due to sports activity practice. So their mother only sees them when she drops them off at school in the mornings and when we drop them off back home at 8:30pm. So I am Mom everyday. When do I get a break?

It has been 6 months now. This started out as me stepping up while the parents worked, but now I am begining to feel taken advantage of.

Any suggestions?

Answer 1

this is not working and you should not have to watch someone else's kids like that.  One way to quickly change the situation is to demand to be paid for your services on the weekend.  He'll be sending them back home quickly that way!