Why don't people like me? ?

Question

I'm a friendly person, I don't gossip about people, I'm maybe a little bit shy but I always ask people questions about themselves and show interest. I have MANY MANY acquaintances and people say nice things about me, but I'm always the girl that gets left out of get togethers/not invited out. It seems like everybody 'likes' me but nobody wants to be my friend. This has been a problem my whole life, and I'm 26 now. What am I doing wrong?

Answer 1

because your 26 and spend your life on yahoo answers

Answer 2

it's not that they don't like you, but that they don't know much about you.  for them to be interested in you, you have to be reveal yourself to be interesting.  if you prefer to be private, then do not say that others do not like you.  let it pass.  have a nice day.  

Answer 3

if nobody likes you then thats just their problem i hate that i mean you do nothing wrong yet people hate you for no reason if they dont like you then thats their problem all you can do is take care of yourself and focus on yourself sometimes it gets to a point where you have to say forget about these people because they have no good reason for not liking me so i really cant spend any time or waste any energy on them so jus focus on you and take it from there and if they come they come if they dont they dont and maybe you should start thinking about moving to a place where ppl are nicer  

Answer 4

It's not you, it's them.

Answer 5

I've often had this problem too. I've always been a friendly person but I'm also very shy which usually comes off in first impressions as uninterested and unfriendly. I've learned that you just have to challenge yourself to be more outgoing and actually approach people. Its a tough thing to do when you have spent your whole life being a quiet, shy person but after you do it a few times it will start to become more comfortable. Good Luck! =]

Answer 6

The plus side to this is you don't have to worry about buying birthday and wedding gifts because you were not invited to the party. ;-)  

Answer 7

I'll be your friend too! :)

Maybe try asking one of your more honest (frank) acquaintances what they think about you.

But you sound like a neat person, try finding other social outlets or events to be apart of where you can find good friends with similar interests.  Good luck! :)

Answer 8

Ask one of your closest aquaintances out to lunch sometime.  YOU have to show them that you are a cool person to be around, while being yourself at the same time.  YOU are not getting asked out by friends because you are being too shy and too quiet.  

Answer 9

Have some confidence in yourself and maybe make some new friends. Release the negativity in your life. Join a new club, maybe. If the people who you hang out with constantly leave you out then I doubt they are your friends. Meet some new people, its not that difficult just have some confidence.

Good Luck

Answer 10

It sounds like you are looking for deep friendships, and we all need those.  

At some point in the past, I learned that to develop deep relationships, I had to find someone I could trust and open up to them about myself, be vulnerable.  It takes more than listening to someone to develop a deep friendship, you also need to be real to them, by being vulnerable and sharing yourself.  You may get hurt from time to time but you will develop deeper relationships.  

Answer 11

I'll be your friend you seem really nice!!!!!!!!!! lol maybe you are a little 2 shy. Don't worry I am the same way! try to bring up something interesting that you feel comfortable talking about around others this way ppl can relate also always smile and be friendly. Girls also tend to pick on other girls so be careful and try not to isolate yourself to much. I hope i helped ! take care sweetie!

Answer 12

There are a lot of nice people out there who don't have many friends, and that's because they are just nice. That's the problem. People like nice people, but they get attached to interesting and opinionated people. They like it when they have a conversation that can carry on naturally and they like common interests. Of course, I'm not saying that you're boring, but if you really feel that you are getting left out too much, try finding some common interests. Talk about the Olympics with a sports fanatic, and talk about your opinion on certain movies with aspiring directors. Before you know it, somebody will be inviting you to lunch to discuss Picasso.