Why don't people listen to good advice, especially if they are in love?

Question

I right now posted a question about my friend who kicked his wife out after finding out she was cheating and then killed herself. That being said, I remember when I first met her some years back i told my friend "Pat, be her friend but don't be a boyfriend, that girl has the aura of a danm w***e". Of course after saying that i was blamed as being jugemental. he announced to me later that he wanted to ask her to marry him, once again i said you are making the biggest mistake of your life...during her bachelorette party a mutual friend of ours saw her making out with another guy. my friend confronted ehr and she admitted it saying that she was drunk and dint know what she was doing [rolling my eyes]. He forgave her under the pretext of her drunk state. Now 3 months ago he found out she was cheating, he kickes her out, she begs for forgiveness, he said he already filed for papers and 2 weeks ago she committed suicide!

Yesterday he even said it to me "if i had listended to you, things would have been different", he also confessed to me that he thought i didnt want her in his life because i was jealous [rolling my eyes at that!]

Answer 1

when you are in love you don't wanna hear the bad things...you just wanna hope for the best, and love brings out the veil of ignorance in a lot of us. we just wanna see what we wanna see and ignore the truth. my momma always says "when someone shows you who they are believe them" but i think when we are in love we just block out what we dont like, even when it makes us hurt in the end

Answer 2

because, they're blinded by love...

Answer 3

Love, hon. It makes people do really stupid things.

PS. you were jealous.. a little, right? Come on- fess up! lol

Answer 4

Just because you have a certain feeling about somebody, it doesn't make it fact.  Just because it appears that you were 'right', it doesn't mean that you necessarily were.  Plenty of people advise their friends/family against certain relationships and they turn out just fine.

It's your opinion and his life.  He has to live with it.  As a friend, it's your job to be supportive of him regardless of how situations turn out.

Answer 5

Some people have far to much to say instead of you giving advice as you call it it would have been better far more to look out for your Friend if you were  more considerate you could have been more of a Friend to listen to what he had to say now look it is far much better to listen than to judge think before you speak

Answer 6

Unfortunately, "being in love" is overwhelmed with feeling. Feelings, and rational thought, rarely coexist. Between the head and the heart, the heart often wins.  

Answer 7

I belive if your in love there is absolutly no reason to Cheat and to answer your question people for some reason like to learn the hard way! I dont think you were jealous I think you were tryin to look out For your Friend!!!! Am i not right>?? The best way to learn is by experiencing it by your self! Thats why most people just dont listen

PS I DO NOT THINK THAT GIRL WAS IN LOVE SHE JUST WANTED SOMEONE TO GET BOOTY FROM WHENEVER SHE WANTTED!!!

Answer 8

The saying "love is blind" should also include "love is deaf."  When one is in love, one tends to ignore all warnings and plunge in head first.  Sometimes egotism can get in the way of rational decision-making, too.  Some people don't like to admit that they are wrong about someone.  

Answer 9

Love is blind, deaf and dumb.    People who don't want to hear things and believe things often don't listen so that they don't have to accept something that is not what they want.

Answer 10

Do you?

Answer 11

Because they are in love.

Answer 12

BECause you think your in love, or you are in love and, you become blind to the signs,  you become blind to what others opinions are on the person your in love with,

for example, me.

I fell in love with a guy, who i now realize, i could have lived without.

and constantly signs were thrown at my face of him cheating, of him just being young, and unfaithful, and etc.

but still i would confront him, and he'd always have his excuses ready.

so me, i would blindly forgive him, or chose not to see the real picture.

now im a single mother, and yes still in love with him.

He breaks my heart constantly, tho we arent together, i want nothing more to be a family, i believe my daughter deserves that, he's not under my roof though cause he still hasnt grown up, and what she doesnt need is a sometime dad.

so he's gone,

it hurts me yes

but it will hurt me further if he brings me something that i cant cure.

in the end, your heart wants to much to love, to be in love to find love, and when you are in love you want to hold on to that, no one can help who they fall in love with. it just happens, and you want to believe that that person feels the same way for you as you do for them.

a small point of advice though is if we listen to our 'gut' we already know the answer, we already know the truth. but how many people out there go around listening to their guts?

no they listen to their hearts, because the heart always wants            L O V E.

Answer 13

Sometimes alas, matrimony is the only cure for infatuation.  For it takes the cold waters of reality to quench the flames of fantasy.

You did your best.  Now let it rest.

Answer 14

b/c they are in love and people usually need to find out on their own...