Why don't some people control their kids?

Question

I work in retail and these parents let their kids rip hangers down, hit eachother with them, take about 30 cupons and scatter them on the floor, and knock clothes everywhere and the parents didn't say one word. I see this pretty often. Why do they do this?

Answer 1

some parents have given up, they cant find a way to control their child

Answer 2

I think it is because kids sometimes have minds of their own, but also they have not watched the Nanny on tv enough.

Answer 3

It's because these kids have never been told off for anything in their lives, never had a time out or grounding, and have never had a good spanking in their lives. I know that if me or my sister ever did that when we were younger, we would have walked out of the store with sore bottoms.

Answer 4

They see a store as a play ground,I guess

Answer 5

some parents just don't care.in 5yrs you'll be seeing them on Maury.out of control.

Answer 6

Because there are morons on this planet (a lot of them) and they breed...a lot.

Hence why we are doomed.

Answer 7

Some children don't listen. My daughter is h**l to take to a store, but at home, most of the time she is good.

Answer 8

some parents don't care what there kids do.

Answer 9

Well, I know this is harsh, but....

Because the parents are lazy and sit on their a$$ and do nothing about their child's bad behavior. I see it all the time at stores, and I thank god that my kids are like that, and that I have actually taken the time to teach them right from wrong. While shopping, at any store, they are to hang onto the cart, stroller, or stay within two feet of me. They will get punished if they stray away, remove clothing/food from rack/shelves, or anything of the sort. My kids know better. But, what it really comes down to is laziness on the parent's part. They obviously aren't teaching them right from wrong which certainly won't help those God for saken children later in life.

Sorry, a bit harsh, but it's the truth. =)

~Kate

Answer 10

Some people are not parents. Responsible adults that have earned the title Parent do not allow their children to behave this way. It's because they take the time to teach their children how to act appropriately and why it's important. When children act up then they speak to them and pull them aside and leave if necessary. People have become weak. No "parent" has the right to cry out for mercy. It's too late. Do what you have to do. It's love when you do that. Kids need to develop coping skills on their own while having a safe and secure safety net.

Some parents think they are perfect and it's the kids that are the problem. It's not them. I feel for you because I see it too. It affects me. It's a cop out. Being a parent is hard work. It's not for the weak.

edit: You can be too strict. Parents need to think about what they are ultimately teaching their kids. They need to listen to their kids. Give them a voice but the parents have the final say. Keep in mind what is being taught to the child. Children are like sponges. They absorb everything.

Answer 11

after telling a child so many times to mind and they dont, it wears on a parent and this just stop trying. and i also think alot of parents are afraid of disciplining there kids in public of the fear that other people might take it the wrong way and try to get them into trouble.

Answer 12

This is the result when people who should not have kids, do.

These parents seem to think that childrearing ends when the child is a toddler, and after that point, it's up to society to regulate the behavior.

I can't stand this, and it's the main reason I never wanted kids.  I see them misbehave in public all the time, and their fat-a**ed parents just sit there, either oblivious or uncaring.

Answer 13

some people didnt bother trying to dicepline them in the first place when they were younger.....

now they are too lazy as trying just causes the child to go into a temper etc.... so its easier (for the parent) to let them do whatever they want....

Some people dont deserve kids. Take a look at this pic: http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1418/1436... and http://farm1.static.flickr.com/33/395194... - I wonder how that kid will be brought up !?!

Answer 14

They don't know how.

There are a lot of talking heads giving conflicting advice.  Many people are confused and kinda frozen like deer in the headlights.

People are misinformed about what is and isn't child abuse and think there kids will be taken away if they do anything so they do nothing.

Answer 15

Because most parents are so afraid to discipline their child and get a visit from CPS. Abuse is so loosely defined anymore, and the only thing it takes is one pissed off kid to make an allegation. People feel that 'children are a gift' so they baby them and refuse to be the parent. Either that, or they just don't care. I know a few 'moms' who have kids so they can get a check by saying it has ADD/ADHD/etc.  It's sad really, when you think about it..

Answer 16

Because some parents are just too d**n lazy to get onto their kids - not saying that this is the situation for all parents whose kids act this way. My kids have tried me like that, and the thing is that the parents have to let the kids know who is in charge. Some kids have disorders that cause them to behave this way and there is nothing that the parents can do about it.

For instance, I have 2 children that are hyperactive. One is 6 and the other is 2. The 6 yr old also has some other deepseeded issues that I am not going to go into right now, but she has a problem with being tempermental and acting like a 3 yr old. I just get down on eyelevel with her and tell her that's enough. Most of the time that works, but I have been known to find a corner in a retail store (such as walmart) and make her stand in it for a few minutes. I get the weird looks, but hey, those people looking at me ain't gotta deal with my child!

My 2yr old on the other hand, can't stand to be stuck in the buggy, so for her punishment for acting up, I put her in the buggy and make her sit there for the rest of the time that we are in the store.

I think that most parents are just to lazy to deal with their kids and need to get a grip on them. It's all in how you "train" them in most cases.

Answer 17

To be honest - sometimes we are just sooooooooooooooo veeeerrrrrryyyy tired.  

Although I wouldn't let me kids destroy anything, if they're playing with something in a shop I let them do it and then as soon as I've paid I chuck them out the door and quickly put everything back in place before leaving - it's the polite thing to do.  I wouldn't let them make a mess for someone else to clean up!  It's pretty rude I think to do that!

Answer 18

cause they are bad parents.  when these kids grow up they will be criminals.   'he who does not discipline his child does not love him'  

now my son..  we love him to death.. we discipline the heck out of him, and he is two yrs old.. he always says thank you to servers in restaurants, puts his napkin on his lap, says please (he wont get what he wants til he says please), and thank you.  he also says bless you if you sneeze.  I do not let him out of his stroller in public unless its the mall play area and when he gets older he will behave or he will spend many lonely hours at home in his room.  its not just behaving, its teaching him to be a civilized human being.  some of the kids he's played w/are little *&^%^&^%&^'s already and they are only like 4.