Why don't they like me MORE then a freind?

Question

Ok im single now im 20 and have a lot of freinds that are girls...most of them think im very attractive, funny,caring,and good with kids so why don't they look at me as more then a freind? I meen im not cocky but I think im a catch and a good person....do girls want the PERFECT guy? Thanks

Answer 1

when dealing with girls .. males often start putting the foundation for the relationship to be from the beginning , you either send her msgs saying that you wanna be just friends OR that you really likes her and wanna be MORE than just friends .. the problem is that most guys don't get just how hard it is to start something with a girl after she is totally convinced that this guy is my male friend ONLY .. so my advice to you is that you have to work on those foundations .. start sending bodylanguage msgs saying ( i like you ) ( i'm interested) (check me out i am a potential boyfriend :P) .. or something like that .. and good luck ;)

Answer 2

Maybe they are not ready for commitment or a relationship.  xox

Answer 3

see the thing is they want a boyfriend not a girlfriend u see  the different.they only want perfect in there eyes.i should know lol.

Answer 4

maybe they have just know you for to long, or think of you in a brotherly way. maybe its your attitude towards them, are you friendly or flirty? but think about it, are you asking this question because you like your friends that are girls???

Answer 5

dont set yourself up in friend territory when you first meet them. if you have the intention of wanting to date them after you've met them or even after months of being pals, you can never be just friends. there is an attraction you have that is always gonna be there and that is going to get in the way of a real friendship. make your intentions known to them right off the bat. im not saying be crude, just have the confidence to make your feelings known that you really dig them and would like to date. i used to work with a bunch of girls and some i hung out with just as friends and some i flirted with and let it be known that i was into them. . . so in short treat friends like friends (regardless of gender) and potential dates like dates.

Answer 6

If I had a friend like you, I wouldn’t want to risk our friendship by dating. It would be hard to be friends again if we broke up.

I would take it as a compliment ;-)

Answer 7

You said that most of your friends are girl well maybe that's why. You started out as friends. If you're as funny, attractive, caring etc as you say you are maybe they don't want to like you in that way because if you two get closer than just friends and something bad happens that may effect your friendship. Or maybe they're just into A**hole guys ya know? Good luck you'll find the right girl. :)

Answer 8

We DO want the perfect guy, but we also know they don't exist.

If you are right about yourself and you're indeed a very attractive person, then you should go forward and find someone you like. Don't always be the friend. You can't always wait for someone to fall in love with you entirely by themselves and come to you begging you to be with them. Hey, maybe someone likes you already, you just haven't noticed it.

Answer 9

Sometimes people feel they rather not make a friend into a boyfriend or girlfriend because it may ruin the relationship as it was. That's all i can say from experience.

Answer 10

Might be your personality

SteveC

Answer 11

your everything a girl dreams of

but you are better then the girl next to you

they dont look at you more then a friend couse mabe they dont think you need it or them at that matter

but you as the one asking why

i think you have to pick one you cant exactly have a bunch of girls at your disposel

Answer 12

You are the perfect guy for someone...you just haven't found that someone yet.  You will just be patient it will find you when you least expect it. Good Luck

Answer 13

well your probally too involved as a friend to be more than that. i know that its really hard for me to just be friends with a guy because usually they end up liking me, but when i dont like them back its mostly because i feel so comfortable with them that i dont even see them as a relationshp anymore. but its hard to tell cause i dont know you.

Answer 14

because theyve always seen you as a friend and nothing more or even had the idea that there could be more with you unless you've attempted to put it forward as in flirt etc in a way that she realises you'd want more. You obviously can't go doing that with all your girlie friends coz then they'll all hate ya for it and then won't even want to know you if you give all of them the impression you like them more than friends so you'll lose out on the friendship too. Just go for one that you think you would click well with.

ps love is rare. when you find a true gem, you should take the chance. It's not something you find every day.

Answer 15

maybe cuz they only see you as a buddy oh pal just cuz you are good looking doesnt mean youll get someone in a second. be patient or you make the moves

Answer 16

maybe its just because your friends are your friends, they ay have once had a thing for you but gotten to the stage where they like you enough that they are afraid to be with you incase it doesnt work and they would perfer you in they life as a friend then to have loved you but lost you.

or thay got to the stage where your arent a catch anymore you are almost like family!

Answer 17

Not necessarily- I mean, have you tried asking them why the only like you as a friend? Maybe it is something that you dont notice about yourself whether it be physically or mentaly.

Answer 18

Because you probably suck.  

Answer 19

You have fallen into the FRIEND zone.  Yeah, it sucks.

Maybe you're not their type, maybe you don't flirt with them, or you've simply have fallen into the friend zone.