Why don't they see what i do??????????

Question

what do you do when boys,girls,women and men of all ages tell you your fit, beautifull and stunning.

but when you look in the mirror all you see is some disgusting ugly freak who you think should never be seen.

this is what iv'e been going through for 2 years i'm 17 and have bdd

i still can't see what everybody else see's , i'm going through h**l i wat to commit suicide everyday my paents don't know what to do and no matter how much people scream at me that there is nothing wrong with me and im seeing things i just cannot believe a word they say

why can't they see what i do????????

Answer 1

go to the doctor, try to get professional help. Or just except it, thats what i do

Answer 2

This is a core belief and is extremely difficult to change. You're right, no matter how many times someone tells you how beautiful you are, it will not matter or change because this belief you hold about yourself is so ingrained in your mind.

Although difficult to change, it is not impossible.

Everything you have tried hasn't worked yet so it's time to move on to step #2 which is reaching out. If you never reach out to someone and ask for help, this h**l you are living in will not subside...

Answer 3

Hey there,

You probably won't take much notice of me as I'm 4 years younger than yourself but I've been going through the same thing for a year.

I've had suicidal thoughts and have been self-harming for months.

Sad thing is, my parents don't know about anything.

I've never told them and I haven't gone to a doctor or anything.

I understand what you're going through at the moment.

I email the Samaritans for support- it's anonymous and confidential, and they are understanding. You may or may not like the idea of contacting a helpline but trust me, it helps.

I've attempted suicide once at my lowest point [which yet again went unnoticed] and they pulled me through it.

[The address is [e-mail]]

I know it won't help them see, because the thing is what I've come to realize is that the distorted vision of an ugly, disgusting, hated freak you and I see in the mirror isn't true.

I mean, I always think I'm fat and hideous when I look in the mirror. I've even started dieting because of it.

But my mother says I'm thin enough- at one point she thought I had an eating disorder.

Because we see this distorted vision because of low self-esteem we don't believe them.

All I can say is email the Samaritans.

I'm not going to tell you to go to a doctor because I'm too afraid to go myself and I believe that given my age they'll just say it's due to hormones and patronise me.

Good luck.

Beth.

Answer 4

thats the way i think when i look in the mirror i feel sick and when someone tells me im beautiful i just think that they are just saying it because they feel sorry for me. nobody thinks that they themselves are absoulutly perfect. i have been told that if i accept who i am and what i look like then all these feelings will go away. but it is really hard to do that and i havent managed to do it yet so if you just learn to accept yourself for yourself and that beauty is inside then you will be fine.

x

sorry it wasnt much help

Answer 5

It's not the case of "Why can't they see what I do" it's a case of why can't I see what they can see?

Basically, lack of confidence.  Something has happened to you in the past which has taken your confidence away.  You need to see somebody who can help you realise when or what that was.  Once you know what that was, you can work and sort out on your own feelings.  Good luck.