Why don't we tell our kids about s*x when they're young?

Question

We let our preschoolers know that we make a car go by stepping on the gas pedal. So, why don't we tell them that we make a baby by putting daddy's p***s into mommy's v****a?

Why don't we want kids to know all that at a young age?

Answer 1

If you tell them at a younger age, they are more likely to have s*x at a younger age.  I guess?

Answer 2

One of the main reasons for not telling a child that age is because a child that age wouldn't understand. I have always spoke cadidly with both my children (now ages13 and 14) about s*x.  I waited for them to question me about s*x.  For example, when my daughter was about 4 or 5 she asked me if babies come out of the belly button and I explained that they come out of the v****a.  It wasn't until she was bit older when she began asking "how babies are made".  That is when I explained s*x to her, but I also told her about going through puberity and I talked to her about sperm and eggs.  

So, what I am saying is I think it is best to wait for them to start becoming interested and talk to them in language they can understand.  There is no need to be too graphic when a child is still young.   You know your child better than anyone therefore you know what to tell your child that he/she will understand without becoming confused.   I also believe honesty is the best policy.  Telling them things like babies come from a stork ect.  will only confuse them.

Answer 3

Being a child is a time of innocence. You're just learning how to reading and write and understand the basic stuff. You'd just make them uncomfortalbe to talk about s*x like that.

Answer 4

I don't think kids should be taught about s*x until 10+. Kids these days are growing up way too fast, let them retain their innocence a little big longer.

Answer 5

Because they should be innocent and carefree whilst they're children. I don't think kids should know about s*x when they're really young. My little sister who is 10 was told what w*nking is by watching an 'educational' video at school the other day and came home and told my mum that she now knows what w*nking is. I don't think that's right at all. Tell them when they're older (12+) when they are needing to know about s*x.

Answer 6

because its nice to let children be children and keep there innocennce for as long as you can why the heck would a presschooler need to know about s*x

Answer 7

I think you can tell kids just that, as you put it, that when a man and a woman love each other very very much and they want to have a baby, the man puts his p***s into the woman's v****a.

My sister as a boy and a girl. Th girl is 2 years old. When you give her a bath, she'll say we wash her feet, her toes, he face, her butt, her v***a... she knows her brother and dad have a p***s and she and her mum have a v****a.

There's nothing wrong by calling the private parts by their names, let along explain their  functions..  

V.

Answer 8

because you dont want your kids to know that type of stuff they wouldnt even understand at that age and when they get about 10 its kool!! good luck!

Answer 9

It's a VERY delicate subject and in a way, they do need to learn early, from their PARENTS, BUT, it's hard to know exactly how young because the subject matter isn't nearly as pure/innocent as the workings of a car...

Answer 10

I think it may be a little too early for them to need such information... You could say instead...Mommy and Daddy get together to build the family and give you a brother or sister. Thats the same as "stepping on the gas" (i.e. its enough information for the moment). If you feel frustrated with your conversations with your child thats something else. Maybe instead of talking about such things a parent can talk to his/her child about what they find interesting or what they want to do such as hobbies and sports and then set such time and resources aside to make that possible. It is just my opinion, but i think too many parents worry about what to say to a child and how to steer them rather than how to communicate with them to help them express themselves effectively which makes them feel better about themselves.

Answer 11

Some people think its inappropirate for young kids to know about s*x, which is BS.

I guess they want their kids to find out about s*x from the media and friends, instead of teachers or parents who could explain its a natural beautiful thing that happens when you become an adult.

Kids shouldn't be denied information

Information= less shame less pregnancy and diesease

Answer 12

Not all people fit into that category.  "WE" answer questions as they come up around here.  Our boys did know in kindergartena and first grade how babies are made.  It's an ongoing dialogue.

Answer 13

okay, i didn't tell them that when the were preschoolers, but i did tell them at a fairly young age. wanted them to know the truth before someone else gave them the wrong information.

Answer 14

the same reason we dont let them start up the barbecue.......play with matches and watch r rated movies its not proper. there is a time and a place for everything..........

Answer 15

because they don't understand all of that mumbo jumbo stuff.  So we put into simpler terms for them.  When you have children you will understand that you want to protect them for as long as possible.

Answer 16

it's better to tell them when they're goin thru puberty.

Answer 17

My mom did. She started talking to me about s*x when I started asking questions (using age appropriate language). We didn't have just one talk, we had many, most of them very casual.

Since we established the line of communication so early, I don't feel uncomfortable talking to her, and I have known from an early age how to stay safe, not matter when I decide that I'm ready to have s*x.

Parents generally don't explain things the way you specified because "p***s" and "v****a" are hardly age appropriate terms, and will only serve to confuse the issue. This isn't to say that there is anything wrong with either term, or that a child shouldn't hear them, but rather that it is unfair to expect a very small child to use technical terms.

Many parents don't want to talk to their kids about s*x because they think that is analogous to giving them permission to have s*x. Some may even be under the delusion that if they don't talk to her children about s*x, they will never find out about it, or have an interest in it, at least not until they are much older and no longer their parents responsibility.

This is silly of course, but it is justification enough for some parents to avoid a potentially awkward and uncomfortable conversation, whatever the risks it may pose to their kids.

Answer 18

probably because it is a very mature subject and the little kids might not understand and might get embarrassed. x

Answer 19

i dont know but i wish my parents were more open about s*x and boys and they werent so embarrassed to talk about it cuz now im pregnant and i kinda blame them

Answer 20

I don't know who you are referring to as we - I always talk to my kids about s*x and always have (keeping things honest and age appropriate of course).

Answer 21

I don't think there is anything wrong with letting kids know about the facts of life from an early age. But I do think it needs to be age appropriate. My sister sat her kids down relatively early (maybe 8 and 9) and explained that stuff to them, more to keep open lines of communication than anything. But pre-schoolers? No way. Way too early!

Answer 22

I don't know.. I'm not a parent so...

I think some parents do, some don't?

Answer 23

Some of us actually do.

We might leave out certain details when they are younger, but you can at least begin to discuss it when they are younger.

Studies show that the earlier children learned about s*x, the later their first sexual experience, actually, and the greater likelihood they would use protection.

Answer 24

Kids will start doing it, or trying to.

Answer 25

For the same reason you don't toss physics at a second grader.   What is the chance they would actually "understand" what is being told to them?

Plus, will they even believe it after you also told them of Santa, the tooth fairy and the easter bunny?

Apparently, to have them know the truths of s*x during their teenage years must not be taken at face value either...look at how many get pregnant while saying...but we only did it once!!

Kids need their childhood to be kids, not to worry about how a baby is made, or how does the gas know to make the car go faster when you step on the pedal?  How does the car know to go faster?

Answer 26

Because if you don't people about s*x, they'll wait till they're married.

*cough* ;)

Answer 27

I wish my parents had told me earlier... I think it's good to have an open door policy with your children and to start the discussions young so it's not awkward in the future. I'd rather have my kids come to me with questions rather than having them go to friends at school.

Answer 28

Well, I wouldn't suddenly explain what I do to make a car do to a preschooler either - I'd tell them if they were interested.

Same with how babies are made. Neither of my kids asked either question as preschoolers, actually - I remember my son asking what it was I actually did to make the car go when he was about six.

Answer 29

That wasn't the case with my parents. I asked how babies were made at six and my mom told me. My mom always says, "if they are old enough to ask, they are old enough to know".

Answer 30

Beacause preschoolers want to try everything they see (or hear about) adults doing.  I really don't want my 3 year old humping little girls in his preschool class.

Answer 31

cause they will spread the word and be a s*x attic