Why dont' parents tell their children about s*x?

Question

now i am 15 and i know everything.

but my parents never even mentioned it!!!

Answer 1

They don't want to think of you doing things like that at your age and it makes them uncomfortable to talk about it.

And it seems like in your case, because of all the information on the internet these days!

Answer 2

LOL because we feel we are not old enough to have kids who ask about s*x or even need to know about it! we know one day you will need to know we just hope that one day is NOT today! What exactly do you tell your kids? how much info is too much or not enough? no one gave us a manual on you guys when we left the hospital, no one said, be sure to tell them about this and that but never mention this! so we really dont know what we are doing!

Answer 3

I've always wondered the same thing. s*x wouldn't be that big of a deal if people and movies didn't make it that way. I mean it's natural, right? It makes for an awkward topic and it really doesn't have to  be.

Answer 4

They feel awkward, and you'll feel awkward...

imagine your father coming into your room and saying "wooh, that was a h**l of a night yesterday with your mother, wanna listen to the details?

first we had a 69, then ..."

not a normal conversation, is it? :-)

Answer 5

I am a parent.  Many parents are just afraid and it seems like a taboo topic.  The best thing is to be upfront as a parent.  I know my children will keep some things from me, but I want them to feel they can be open with me and my hubby when they are teenagers.

Answer 6

because its awkward, who knows with todays laws the parents would probably be charged with Sexual abuse for trying to explain it

Answer 7

I bet most people just figure it out anyway, so most parents figure there's not much need.  Or maybe some just try and shelter their kids too much.

Answer 8

My children are 8, 3 and 1 my 8 & 3 year old know about s*x and what the s*x organs are, so not all parents are scared totell their children.

Answer 9

i can't answer that question feeling a little odd about it sorry to hear that your parents never mention it and that is an inportant subject for young teens like yourself and others girls and boys in the teen years so hope u make the best choices in life take care you have my word on it  

Answer 10

its the same thing with my parents, they havent even talked to me about it and im 13, well its probably cause they dont want you getting laid early.

Answer 11

Some parents will, others won't.  Most probably don't want to think that their won child is sexually active at a young age....but in reality the age of people starting to become sexually active seems to keep going down, so if parents want to inform their children, they should realize they need to start earlier than their own parents may have with them.  Others probably figure the less they tell their kids, the better off, and the longer they'll wait to become sexually active, but that isn't necessarily so.  It all comes down to choice I suppose.  

Answer 12

Your question begs another one: Why don't 15-year-olds ASK their parents about s*x? :) I think many parents do give their children good and timely s*x education talks, but many don't, for a variety of reasons: 1) they hope if they don't tell you about it, you won't HAVE s*x; 2) they received no such talk from THEIR parents; 3) they are uncomfortable doing it; etc.

Answer 13

As a mother of three maybe i can help you. It's just one of those things that most are "scared" to talk about. My mother never did either and i learned from other places such as school. My oldest is almost 11 and i am preparing myself to talk to her soon. It's just one of those topics that parents would rather not discuss. They are always worried about how much and how detailed they should be so they end up putting it off and it never happens! That's just the way it is most of the time!

Answer 14

you know *everything* about s*x? wow, I am impressed.

it's pretty obvious that they will either get a 5 year old asking "why" continuously when you try and explain things and obviously, they're bodies aren't ready to reproduce. Also, if your child is young, you never know what they might do.

Answer 15

They may want to protect you from it, but that would just be naive on their part. They may not have had time or thought you were ready for it. They may not want to have the awkward 'birds and bees' conversation.

Answer 16

It is a hard thing to look at your child as a sexual being so most parents feel uncomfortable and even sick to their stomachs at the thought.  My kids are 12 and 10 and I have had several talks with them starting off with their bodies and what changes will happen to them then going into kissing and fondling and finally to s*x.  Obviously I don't go into detail but I give them the medical explanation and leave it open to questions.  I always answer their questions honestly that way they know what they are curious about and we have had many talks so that when new questions come up they come right to me without hesitations.  Sorry your parents didn't talk to you but if you have any questions I'll be happy to help.

Answer 17

Becaus they feel akward, they want to keep you as innocent as long as possible.

Answer 18

Awkward, maybe emberassed, loss of youth, emberassing, did i mention emberassing?

Answer 19

me to. my parents never told me. but i know. i guess they dont want you to know. they think its for the "better"

Answer 20

lol when i was little i was making my toys have s*x i wasnt exposed to anything like that ... my parents did everything to keep me as innocent as one person can be.. but some how i knew what it was... weird huh?

Answer 21

im 22 and ive always known about s*x, when i was liek 6 i used to always get my neighbors daughter, who was my age, to play "house" and i think thats self explaining. lol. and yet my parents were hardcore christians and wouldnt even say the word s*x around me.

its like they dont teach their kids that because they think that if they know about it, then they are gonna explore and try it. so they try to keep their kids dumb about it and act like its the worst thing in the world. when really they just need to teach their kids the real dangers of s*x, and why you shouldnt go around having s*x with all sorts of people. someone people also value things like sanctity, no s*x before marriage. and really all they need to do is teach their kids about it.

but they dont understand this and so they just keep them in the dark.

same with drugs and stuff, my parents were soooooo hardcore against drugs and alchohol, they always told me ide go to h**l if i did that stuff and to jail. then at around 13 i found out my parents were alcoholics and thats why we were poor. yet they could have just taught me the dangers and wrongs of drugs and alcohol. Instead they kept me dumb and i was scared to go to h**l and yet they were the biggest drunks.

my parents sucked dude.

Answer 22

lol, just think about it. it would suck to have to tell your little brother or your own child about s*x... xD im only 11, but i honestly think that my parents will NEVER talk about it with me. that's what highschool school nurses are for, right? xD

Answer 23

i suppose its an embarrasing subject and a sensitive one,no parent likes to think about their kids having s*x!

however it has to be tackled.most parents i know do talk to their kids openely abouit it,maybe your parents are more reserved or in denail.

i think its important for kids to hear it from their parents ,because its sincere and should be for their best interests,instaed of kids hearing from other sources that may lead them down the wrong path.

Answer 24

you're 15 and you THINK you know everything...

...what's funny is that in ten years you'll look back and understand how ignorant you are...and then it will happen again ten years later...

...listen to your parents...they are smarter than you think.

Answer 25

cruelty, they want there kids to be completely unprepared for the real world so they developer self destructive personality's and come back home when there in there 40's

Answer 26

Mine did, I will. School does a pretty good job now well most schools), it's really embarrassing for parents and kids to have "the talk"  

Answer 27

I personally, have already mentioned and discussed s*x with my daughter, she just turned 8 but has known a bit since she was 6.  She simply has an inquisitive mind and I only need answer her questions.  I think more parents should step up to the plate.  If it is discussed before hormones kick in, it becomes more of a lesson about anatomy and reproduction not so much intimate feelings of lust and teen horniness.  

Answer 28

My mom kind of did. She never said it would hurt the first time though.

I am 35 weeks pregnant with a little girl and when that time comes to have that talk that is the first thing I would tell her.

Answer 29

it's a personal matter and it's only for adult.

when you will became an adult, you will understand about it and you will find it in yourself.

there is nothing to discuss.

Answer 30

They are afraid to talk about s*x with their kids.

Don't worry my parents never had 'the talk' with me either. Maybe you should bring it up with them.  

Answer 31

because its akward, your their little girl. to them, it seems like yesterday you were doing fingerpainting and leaning to write. now their telling you what your p***y is for? thats a hard thing for a parent to talk about. where do you start? howmuch do you tell her? if i tell her everything is she going to start having s*x? by the time your parents have concidered these questions the concent form for s*x education in school has already come n they figure they are off the hook.

my parents didnt say anything about s*x to me. i will talk to my daughter about s*x. she knows what the sexual organs are n she knows what bad touching is. shes 3. she knows where babys come from-  we will tell her things as she gets older.  

the parents of my generation see s*x as a dirty uncomfortable subject to talk about. but for our generation its a relaxed common thing we talk about it all the time so i think it will be easier for our generation to talk about it with our kids

are u mad at your parents for not saying anything to u? why dont you talk to them about it if you really want to know why.  doesnt sound very easy does it?