Why flirt consistently with me if my friend told me he loves her, what's going on?

Question

What he does to make me think he might like me:

-says I look nice, likes my top, earrings etc..

-cooked me dinner once

-calls me a nickname that is the title of a song

-touches my arm when talking, my waist when walking sometimes

-smells my hair when hugging or touches it when walking past me

-offers to walk me home, gives up his seat..really polite

-gets jealous of other guys getting close

-silly things like blowing into my ear, tickling when I went round his house

-hugs me for 5 minutes, strokes my back

-says my family really liked you

-caught him staring and he din't look away, he smiled

-he kissed me on lips (closed mouths) when drunk when I was talking to his friend

I told my friend I still like him a lot & she said I should be careful because he told her loved her 5 times. She doesn't like him but they are good friends & he used to like her. So if he loves her like she says, should I try to get rid of my feelings for him? what do you think?

Answer 1

Look here, I know you're not stupid, and I know you really don't need us to tell you this. But I'll go ahead and give it too you honestly anyway. Since this is what you're looking for.

He likes you and she's jealous, simple as that. She's mad at the fact that the two of you are falling for one another and growning closer, and she feels left out. That fact that she's your friend and there was once something between the two of them is what's causing the problem. We never realize how much we really care for someone until we see them with someone else.

And it would make me wonder about why he's calling himself liking me if he once was "close" with a friend of mine. Have you ever stopped and considered the fact that he may be doing these things too you to get back at her?

Why don't you just sit them both down and talk too them and find out what's really going on? And word to the wise, never turn you back on a friend for a man that you "like". Since she's already dated him once before.

Answer 2

Watch out for both of these people.  It sounds like this "friend" of yours doesn't want the guy, but she likes to keep him around for an ego boost.  If she didn't have any feelings for him and was just his friend, why would she feel the need to warn you? She would be happy he was moving on. Mark my words, if you make a move for the guy, your friend will try to get him back just to prove she can.

Regarding the guy: 1. feelings change and 2. you can love more than one person, or love people in different ways. So there's no reason he's off limits because he used to be in love with your friend. But it sounds like things are not definitely "over" with your friend. You also need to be careful because he's clearly attracted to you but that doesn't mean he has love-type feelings.  He could very well not know what he feels, be really impulsive, or be going back and forth.  

You sound young and I bet you could find a guy with less baggage.  This one is probably not worth the drama but you're also probably going to make a move for him anyway because that's what young people with crushes do.  So just be prepared beforehand that if you and the guy start going out, this friend is going to get in the middle of it.

Answer 3

So what if he told her he loved her? Sounds like he's into you. If not he's a great actor. Guys sometimes say what they have to to get what they want. Sounds like that's what you have on your hands!

Answer 4

have you ever thought he might be playing you??? what if he just wants u 4 ur body??? or what if he really likes you and doesnt like ur friend n-e-more