Why for some people to be loved is a bad thing?

Question

i am talking here about ambivalent attachment-my personal case.

i want to be loved but i am always angry cause nothing seems enough.

i dont wanna come out as clingy so i pretend i am not impressed.

and i fear that if i manifest love, people will hate me for it.

what i want is what i reject.

what i wanna give is what i hide the most and ashamed of.

love of course in both cases.

what hope is there for me in a country where therapy is not an option?

Answer 1

It sounds like you have been loved, and then been betrayed, it could be by a boyfriend or a family member. So you have lost your trust in love. So you sabotage your only chance of love so you don't have to face the possibility of rejection or lost trust. I am not sure, it could be something else,but it sounds like a possibility with what you explained.

Over all, you should just be yourself. If your too clingy and they don't like it then oh well their loss. Just be yourself and be happy with who you are. The one you are meant to be with will find you eventually. And all the others between now and then, consider it learning experience. I think you have bad relationships to learn how to grow and cope with future problems in the relationship you are meant to be in, in the future.