Why has it suddenly become wrong to tell kids that wrong behavior is bad?

Question

like it will offend their civil rights or something? how do we expect kids to understand our reprimands if it is not acceptable to label anything "wrong" you hit your brother, well lets explore your feeelings, instead of hey hitting is bad, go to your room!

Answer 1

you need to use reinforcement. praise good behaviour, and modify "wrong" behaviour.

If you tell a kid that their behaviour is bad, then they will feel as if they are bad, even though they're not.

feeling that they are bad, will make them feel unloved.

feeling unloved, will give them a low self esteem,

which in turn, will ruin them for life,

of just be very hard to work through.

Answer 2

I think that at times the behavior needs to separated from the child.  We just need children to understand that they are not bad, it is their behavior that is the problem.  People worry that the child's self concept and self esteem will deteriorate if we tell them they are bad or naughty or discipline them in a punitive manner.



It is OK to discipline children but we need to use logical consequences and like I said before, separate the child from the behavior.

Answer 3

Hi,

I guess that times have just changed.

bye,

BLOOD

Answer 4

I think that kids should be reprimanded, but I think that we need to take an authoriative approach.  We need a little bit of both.  First, we need to discipline our children, but we need to let them know why we're disciplining them.  Too many parents spank their kids and then don't explain WHY they did it.  The punishment always needs to be explained and consistency is of the utmost importance when discipline is given.

Answer 5

It is okay to label behavior wrong or bad but not a child.  The concern is if you tell a child they are bad instead of making them understand what they did is bad or the choice they made was not a good one then that child will internalize that and think they are bad.  If you are constantly telling a child "you are bad" instead of saying hitting is bad then they are going to think they are bad and worthless.  Teaching a child that there are consequences for bad actions/behavior is how to be a good parent.  You don't have to spank to get that across (also doesn't seem right to spank a child for hitting their sibling!!)

Answer 6

CONSIQUENCES

Talk is cheap, you can reason with kids all day long and five minutes after you leave it's like you were never there.

It takes a sure knowledge that if they do something wrong there will be consiquences.

Our President is a perfect example of someone who has never accepted that there are consiquences for his actions.

Answer 7

Because to many people are working and they are making excuses as to why they are not correcting their children.

They don't want to spend their half hour or hour with their kid correcting them.  So they find ways to correct softly.  

Those of us who are with our children are able to balance out the hugs and kisses and lay down the law.

That is it.  in my opinion.   And if you separate the action from the child then the child does not own it and he or she does not have to take responsibility for it.  

If we think its bad now, wait to see the next generation!!!!!!!!!!