Why hasn't my boyfriend proposed? We talk about marriage, but he won't even talk about moving in yet. ?

Question

It's been two years since we got together. We've been talking about "when" we get married, not "if" since the first month. But he won't make any moves in that direction. He won't even talk about moving in together although he says "he's moving in that direction". One thing is maybe our age difference, I'm 31 and he's only 28. I even tried asking him (sorta joking) over the 4th of July and he sorta got mad and told me that he would feel like he missed out if he didn't get to ask me. That he wanted to do it. But as far as I can tell there is NO movement... what the heck is going on?

Answer 1

First, sweetie, it ain't ever the years, it's the mileage.. and at 31, if you don't yet know what you want in a relationship, you are running out of time to be a mom, if that is anything you might wish to do.

Secondly two years is enough time to decide.... you as well as him.  You aren't kids.  If you wish a live in partner, or a spouse, and that is important to you, any time soon, you need to let this guy know... and when you do, be prepared to walk.... if it is an ultimatum, and he isn't interested, bail...

" George, I truly love you.  And as well, I truly wish to be married to you, and live with you and share my life with you... if this is not on your agenda, and we are not looking for a place for us by September 3, then, I must leave... and though I love you, I wish to be partnered even more. If it is not to be you, it will be someone else.... so the ball is now in your court.  If you make no decision by then, I assume you like your life as it is, and it will then be without me in it...."

Then, hon, ya bail, and find a guy willing to be your partner.

Answer 2

If you've been talking about when since your first month of being together, you've been talking about it too much.  And as a result, he is under too much pressure.  When he says he's moving in that direction, that translates to "I don't want to move in together right now".  The more you talk about it, the less likely things will happen.  If you lay off and don't even seem like you care about when you're moving in or when you're getting married, he'll all of a sudden turn around and make some moves. But you have to not talk about it at all, even if it's for months.  If after that, there is any indication he has no intention of settling down with you, and he doesn't bring the subject up, time to move on to someone else!!

Answer 3

He is being smart and understanding after he get married his freedom is over and he will be imprisoned for the rest of his life.

Answer 4

i have no idea i'm going threw the same thing...

Answer 5

He just isn't ready yet.