Why have i not seen or heard from my deceased son?

Question

matthew committed suicide august 21 i have not seen or dreamed or anything anyone have tips so i can try and reach him?

Answer 1

I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree with krennao. He can hear you. Close your eyes and talk to him, your heart will know his responses. A few ways to know he's near (they're very subtle)--he suddenly pops into your mind when you haven't been thinking of anything even related to him. Or you smell something that reminds you of him (my grandfather comes with the smell of coffee).

But I agree that it can be dangerous to try and contact the dead on your own. You need to know how, to know what to do, or you could end up attracting something you have trouble getting rid of. Just talk to him. Ask God and the angels to give you a sign that he's around you or that he's crossed over and that he's at peace now. "Ask and you shall recieve".

Peace, love and light to you

Answer 2

Jesus said "let the dead bury the dead". Communicating with the dead can be very dangerous, especially if you try to use a medium to do so. The bible says do not use a medium. Any manifestations of the dead can be filled with deception. People have become demon possessed by trying to communicate with the dead. Give your heart to Christ, and let the Holy Spirit speak to your heart about your son's passing.

Answer 3

Since it's has not been long, since he died, it may take some time.  You don't need to reach him he can hear you. Pretty much you want a sign. Start listening. He will come to you when he is ready.

Answer 4

I am not trying to be insensitive to your loss but the ultimate bottom line is that when someone commits suicide they are pretty much instantly 'recycled' and put back into the stream of life to be reborn into a similar situation from which they just tried to escape...it is the Universe's way of keeping you around until you 'learn the lesson' you were here to learn.

So I'm sorry, you probably will never hear from him in this lifetime unless the new body he gets dies or gets killed without his own involvement at which time he'd be free to do as he wanted. Be wary of anybody that tries to tell you that you CAN and will hear from him.

Answer 5

you cannot reach him, he needs to reach you.  he does see and watch over you.  but, it is too soon for someone who has commited suicide, [usually], to connect to  the family and friends.  those who have taken their own lives usually are being schooled and are busy learning by their mistake.  when they have learned the lesson, it is my belief, that they will then be able to contact you.  just be open to the ways in which he might express himself.  could be something simple like pennies on the floor.

Answer 6

Not to be rude, but when someone dies, they are gone forever. He is not over a friends house, where he can call and check in or something. He is gone.

Keep him in your heart, but he will not ever talk to you, phone you, or try to get in touch with you. Its not that he doesn't love you, but he can't.

Answer 7

I am sorry to hear of your loss.

One possibility you have not heard from your son is because ghosts and spirits don't exist and there is no afterlife.  I don't intend to come across as unkind, but all the wishful thinking in the world won't change that.

Answer 8

I'm so sorry for your loss. Just know that if you "heard" from him...you couldn't be absolutely positive that it's him you 're hearing from. All of us (probably) who have had loved ones die would like (very much) to hear from them. But even if a psychic told you things that you think only you&he would know...there are spirits etc. out there who know a lot about both of you . They could deceive you. I think only God knows EVERYTHING..but from experience...I know there are others out there. If it ever does happen...try to discern it. Listen to your heart and what you feel from what they tell you. Maybe you would be able to tell by his personality....which you should know being his mother. If it seems like a different personality...then doubt it.Even the Bible says "Discern the spirits..whether they be of God.". You should be able to discern if it's your son...or someone pretending to be him. Don't waste your money on psychics. If it's a true psychic..I don't think they'll charge...and even then they might just WANT to help..but be wrong. Maybe one thing you can do if you haven't is have his picture out and do things that would make him see your love and concern for him. If he's around...at least he'll see you care. Keep it between you and him and God. I've always heard that if someone commits suicide that they are most likely mentally ill at that time and that God knows what they were going through and wouldn't hold that against them...because of their illness and they didn't realize what they were doing. May the Holy Spirit guide you and give you peace.

I just read what "his lady" wrote...I pretty much agree with her.

Answer 9

I not being God (or apparently the YA debunkers) am willing to admit that I don't know everything and that I know nothing (just like everyone else) about what might happen after a person dies. I have my beliefs of course.

I believe the books from the links below may be of some help/comfort to you and my sympathy for your loss.

Answer 10

you can't

Answer 11

I am very sorry for your loss your pain must be great. I would say that reason you have not seen or heard from your son is he knew that you would be OK .Alot of times a persons spirit will linger or visit if they feel that the loved one is going to have problems with there passing please take this as a beautiful sign that your son knows that your OK.And also take this as a sign that your son is at rest and peace I pray your pain will be taken from you and god bless

Answer 12

Brant is 100% correct.  I also find that recalling the fun times brings my lost loved ones closer to me in times of loss.

Answer 13

You have my sympathies, but follow Brant's advice. There is no such thing as spirits or anything. Your son is gone, and nothing can bring him back, it's not possible. You might fall for a scam if you try, but that's all you'll do.

Answer 14

Trying to reach him will result in either disappointment or self-deception.  It could also make you the victim of some unscrupulous psychic or spiritualist medium, who will bilk money out of you in such a sweet and alluring way.  LIke those consummate cold-reading frauds, Jonathan Edward and Sylvia Browne and others.

You have my sincerest sympathies on the loss of your son.  Suicide is an especially hard way to lose someone.  Think of him and remember him, but realize that he is gone.  Get all the help you can in coping with this tragic event in your life.

To answer the question posed at the end of the most recent version of Miracle on 34th Street, (with Richard Attenborough), "Which is better: a lie that brings a smile or a truth that brings a tear?"  I believe the latter.

Best of luck to you. The tears of truth are better than the smiles of lies.

Answer 15

Most people never speak to the deceased. It is rare for them to make contact with us, no matter how much they loved us in life. I think there is a good reason for that.This may sound strange, but I think he's occupied right now. He obviously needed some special comfort and rest when he crossed over. Suicide is hard on a soul. He is receiving that special care right now. Or he already got it and is working, exploring and visiting. I believe we have things to do in the next world. We have things to learn and maybe they will help us in our next lives. He may never contact you in this life or he may visit you one day out of the blue. A friend of mine spoke to his sister years after her death. He said she was outdoors in broad daylight and looked real and solid. It surprised him tremendously.

Answer 16

Hello Froggie

Firstly let me say that I'm very sorry for your loss.

His passing was not that long ago & I would suggest that it is still too soon to have direct contact.

He may well be in healing still & until that is completed contact will be difficult.

You will know when this time has passed. You will have random happy memories, coinsidences etc that will make you smile, even if grief quickly follows. Say hello to these moments.

For now, a good idea is to picture him & send healing & love, leave it with spirit & try not to call him to you, let him rest. Grief is another issue, it blocks contact, so maybe you need to heal a bit more yourself x

Pam