Why is Every One Preggo But Me?

Question

ok soo if u have not read any of the questions that i have written on here they all explain that me and my husband have been trying to get preggo for almost 2 years now...soo im sitting here at work and my friend texts me telling me that she is preggo!!...and i dont know weither to be happy for her because i know that she didnt plan it, or to be jealous and upset...this is my best friend..i want the best for her and everything..but im just really upset that 'ALL' my friends, (and when i say all i mean all) are getting pregnant..i have read many stories on here from other women coming on here and ranting that all their friends are getting pregnant but them, and i used to say how can they get made they should be happy for them...but i see where they are coming from..and as i sit here at work i am trying to hold back the tears that i have...its just always like all these women out there that want kids but cant conceive, but on down the road you hear of some teenager getting pregnant or whatever...why does it have to be this way?? i tell myself every day that god has a plan for every one and maybe it just isnt my time..i dont have insurance so u know what that means, lol no fertility doctor...oh well congrats to all the women that have conceived a miracle..me and my husbands day will come..

Answer 1

Hey girl, TRUST ME! we are all in this boat. I totally know how your feeling. My friends are having babies, But when the time is right your little bundle of joy will come along. Stay positive girl.

Sasha x

Answer 2

I know exactly how u feel, i feel the same way, i have been trying for 2 yrs. Last year i got pregnant and when i was 6 weeks i had a miscarriage, so i stopped trying. This year in february i found out i was 2 months pregnant, i was extatic and so was my husband. In may i was 5 months pregnant and i whent in to preterm labor and my baby passed away he to small to servive. I cant beging to tell you how i feel. Today i just found out my best friend is pregnant again and she was not even trying, so i know how you feel, i guess we will have to wait untill is our time to have a baby, all i can say is good luck, have faith and dont give up

Answer 3

The timing just isn't right. My brother & sister n law tried for 3 years and finally got it. I know people who have tried 10 years adopted and then bam pregnant. It will all fall into place when it is supposed to. You may not understand it now but you will see.

Answer 4

I understand where you were coming from, i had been trying to get preg, later found out my sis in law was preg.....well, guess what i finally got preg too and had a miscarriage at 6wks it hurt so bad....the most hurting part was when she had the baby and me going to the hospital to see the new baby, i was happy for her and all but i had just lost my baby a week before, i know its hard but keep trusting in praying to god, thats what i am doing so hopefully soon god will bless me and  my husband with another baby......  

Answer 5

Try to hang in there.  It is normal to have the feelings you are having.  Trust me I know how you feel.  My hubby and I are on our 26 month ttc and are seeing a specialist.  Everyone I know has gotten pregnant during this time and some are on their 2nd pregnancies.  My cousin just called me this week to tell me she is expecting baby #2 (baby #1 is only 8 months) and I talked to a friend of mine last week and she is pregnant with baby #2.  So many people have gotten pregnant during our 2 year struggle 4 or 5 of my friends, 2 cousins, my own doctor, my boss's daughter.... and on and on.  So it can be really hard.  Try to work past and know your time is coming.  Remember they are not doing it on purpose so try to join in their happiness knowing your celebration is in the future.  Best wishes!!!

Answer 6

you or your husband could be infertile... try going to a fertility doctor to make sure.

Answer 7

I totally get where you are coming from. My friend has 4 kids and all were surprises and not the kind of happy surprise, more like the "oh ****" kinda surprise. It kills me because I want a baby so bad and here are all these people just popping them out or not having them at all. I feel your pain. Im trying to be optimistic that there is a plan for all of us but seriously, crack heads can have babies and we cant? Doesnt seem fair. Best of luck to you and lots of baby dust.  

Answer 8

I know exactly how you feel girl, but the way to go about it is to not be mad at your friend or jealous, if she was'nt trying then maybe you should stop trying and just have fun at it. Keep yourself stress-free and go online to a site where you can set up a fertility chart for free and start recording your temps, your most fertile times, etc.....and work on having s*x at the chosen times and stay lying on your back for at least 20 minutes with your hips elevated after he ejaculates in you before you get up. I hope this helps you. I can relate to it all because i'm trying hard for #3. Good luck and sticky baby dust.

Answer 9

I find it disturbing how everyone's pregnant all of a sudden. Like WAY to much population people!

Answer 10

Most people fall pregnant when they give up trying. A friend of mine was trying for 15 years they decided that they would never be able to have kid..then wooohooo she got pregnant!!!! Just chill and it will happen xx

Answer 11

Until you go to a fertility doctor you will never know what the problem is, so I know you are frustrated, but if she is your best friend you better not be mad at her! Try adoption. 2 years is quite a long time.

Answer 12

I am very sorry to hear about your situation.  Of course we can understand your sadness and frustration.

My office was full of gals (younger and older) getting pregnant...and boy was I jealous and a bit angry (even though I was very happy for them).  But you just have to keep up hope, and try to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

If a fertility specialist is not feasible, have you tried alternative medicine like acupuncture?  I've heard of a couple of friends who saw an acupuncturist and got pregnant...the visits are usually less expensive than doctors offices...maybe you can give that a try.

Answer 13

OMG - I feel the same way every time one of my friends announces her pregnancy.  Great for her but when will it be my time.  The whole thing is worse when I know that it was an "accident".  I have been wanting a baby for so long and I think how come it is so easy for her and not for me.  I am happy for my friends but I just want it to be my turn.  Anyway, on the topic of fertility dr. some are not very expensive for an initial visit.  Any some things can be done by your regular gyn.  They can do blood work to test your hormone levels and monitor your cycle.  Baby Dust to You and All TTC !!!!

Answer 14

First I'd check for fertility problems, after that you find out you're ok or whatever else take the next step, but if nothing's wrong...PRACTICE!!!

It seems that everyone is pregnant, because you want to be so bad, but you know what...don't worry.  Stop stressing that can really mess you up!!!  When you have s*x with your husband, don't make conception your only aim because that takes the joy and romance out of it.  When I just let it go and made love with my husband because I loved and wanted it and not with a goal to create a life, blammo, I got pregnant.

And honestly, God knows when you need one.  I'm so glad that you want a baby, because there are so many people who get knocked up and don't want em and get rid of them because it was an incovenient time or they're just too selfish to care for another life, but weren't responsible enought to protect themselves.

Answer 15

It always seems like that when you're having trouble. My husband and I have been trying for exactly 2 years now with more questions than answers! My mom called the other day to let me know my cousin, who just got married, accidentally got pregnant, but is happy about it. My mom told me because she knew it wouldn't be good if I was surprised by my cousin with this news. I was ok for a second when I heard, but then just started sobbing. It so hard to be excited for someone when it comes so easily to them because they will never know the c**p the rest of us go through to get pregnant. She has no clue what it is like to take your temp every morning, pee on a stick every day, pay attention to cervical mucus, have timed s*x, limitless exams and tons of financial obligation. She didn't have to try so she doesn't know how heartbreaking it is every month to see that negative test. It almost seems like if you have trouble, you deserve it so much more because you would do ANYTHING to make this happen for you. I realize that many good parents didn't have trouble, buy that's hard to remember when you just can't do it. TTC is so difficult from beginning to end. It's natural to be upset but good luck and keep doing what you're doing-it'll happen for you someday and all you're friends will be jealous because you have the brand new baby...and who doesn't love a brand new baby?!   :)

Answer 16

I was on the short end of the stick when I got prego....my roomate is 31 never married nor a boyfriend and my boyfriend and I were together for only 6 months and we were prego....she was trying to be happy but so negative towards the whole situation....she basically told me my life was over at 23....My boyfriend and I looked at it as a new beginning and were excited.  Dont be upset with her just be happy for her....trust me it really hurts to have your best friend being unhappy and negative about things especially when your prego and already emotional!  Good luck with everything and def find a fertility doc to get to the bottom of things no matter the cost!