Why is being a single parent so trying?

Question

I have 2 boys, 2 & 4. I am just completely exhausted. And seem to be going crazy?

Or maybe I was before.....

Answer 1

Hey chick.

Well firstly i want to say that your a really strong girl for looking after two boys! My friends sister is also a single parent with  two boys the same ages as yours. She goes crazy also, but to help her sometimes she gets her sister to come over and help her out every now and then with the boys. Or take them to there nanas for a few hours so she can get things done. Your boys will respect you when there older.

I know its hard but yourve done really well bringing them up so far. Im sure you will cope :)they must be hard work definatly! but i guess just focus and be the best mother you can be.

Good luck :)

Answer 2

I'm a product of a two boy family and i have to say for any one or family with kids is trying.  That's life.  A Beautiful Struggle as i like to see it.  Just think how hard it was before civilization.  At least you don't have to worry about small pox.  

Answer 3

2 boys are a handful at any age.  You just need a little break.  

See if you can connect with some other single parents or even a couple with a child or children the same ages as your boys and offer to trade a day of babysitting for a day alone.  

I did it with another couple so they could have a date night.  Friday night 8pm to Saturday noon.  On the alternate weekend I got a Friday night to myself.  It was a very welcome relief and the kids loved the company at either place.

Answer 4

Too bad your moms not the Governor.

Answer 5

Because you have to be a Mother & Father for them in the home.  You have to be two parents rolled into one.  You have to do everything for them when they are happy and when they are sick.  You have to make all of the decisions for your life and theirs.  Yes, it is a very tough thing in life to deal with.  I know, I did it by myself with NO help and NO support from anyone else!  Good Luck and always keep your chin up knowing that tomorrow will be a better day and you always have those smiling cherub faces to look at daily.  You will always be able to look back on this experience and be very PROUD of yourself.

Answer 6

I applaud you!  

And,most likely...you were before...LOL

Answer 7

At the moment, what's making you tired is their age. Two boys aged 2 & 4, that would exhaust a two parent family. They're energetic, inquisitive, non-stop, destructive at times, etc, etc. The list is endless. Keep at it, and as they get older, it will get easier. Good luck.

Answer 8

They will drive you crazy and try your patience. You just want them to get older.Then they do, and you're wondering what happened.

When they're asking for a car,to go out on dates and for money, all the while rolling their eyes at you, you'll wish they were little again.

Listen to this song, it makes me cry:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R7iMFduQc...

Answer 9

Been there, and Yes it is

totally exhausting !!  You are

outnumbered and yet expected

to perform the tasks of both

Mom and Dad plus provide

home, health, and education.

Not to mention juggle the

judgments of others as to how

well of a job you are doing !!

I find myself watching more

Nanny 911, and the Dog Whisperer,

just to feel better about my

own situation !!  LOL !!

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OMG !! And then they do,,,,,,,,

I bawled like a baby !!

Good tears though !!  (;

Answer 10

Hang in there....they grow so fast...you're doing the work of 4 or 5 people right now....no joke...I have raised 2 daughters by myself..they're 12 & 15 now....your crazy days will pay off big when your sons protect and care for you one day.

Answer 11

because you are both mom and dad!!you get a gold star in my book~~!!!

Answer 12

Because you have to do everything and you never get a break.

Answer 13

No. Boys at that age can be very tiring.

Answer 14

Omg sounds like you have your hands full...lol

Answer 15

Because you're doing a job that was intended for two people.

I'm not saying you can't be a single parent.  I'm simply saying it takes two people to make the child so it should be two raising them.  AGAIN I am not saying your children won't be wonderful members of society and have the best upbringing.  I'm saying the reason it's hard.

My dad raised me thru my late teens before getting remarried.  He dated but he didn't want us girls to think that our mom was replacable.  He is a good man who never said a bad thing about her until we were old enough to ask about her and understand he wasn't being mean he was being honest about why she was absent.  I love my dad.

Answer 16

i thenk thats why its set up for their to be two! i know people that suck at bein parents even tho they got soemone that shud help them. jus remind urself ur amazin for doin the werk of two ♥  

Answer 17

Not only do you have to work two jobs to make ends meet, you have two other jobs when you get home. Caring for your Children. My Hats off to you! You have the toughest Job in America!

Prayers to you! I hope you have Family or Friends near by who will volunteer to assist you in raising your children.

Answer 18

i was a single parent and it is the hardest job that i have ever had.  it is tough being a mommy and daddy but in the long run, it is the best job that we can ever have.  We may get exhausted and break down from stress but looking at those smiles makes all that go away.

take a deep breath because they grow up and we will miss them when they no longer need us.

Answer 19

you need a nanny and a few nights off

Answer 20

because it takes two people to make a baby, it should take two people to raise one. Thats the way its suppose to be.

how ever alot of the time it isn't.

and its hard.

Answer 21

ask my mom.. shes got 3 of them ! it's tiring, yet think how rewarding it is. :)

my mom, she's my hero. :)

Answer 22

I can relate, yours are younger than mine, but mine just went back to school.  Homework is always a chore, enjoy it while you don't have the demands of school yet.  I'm not a single parent, but may as well be if ya know what I mean.  Hang in there.  Make sure you take time for YOU once in a while.

Answer 23

I've been there. I think it's trying because you don't have immediate support. Like a sounding board or someone there to help at times. I know ages 2 & 4 can be very exhausting. =)  I've got a 2 year old now and it's like raising twins who have ADHD. lol

Answer 24

You didn't make the babies by yourself, you shouldn't be raising them by yourself. You're just a person, and you can't do it all alone. That's just life.

Best of luck to you. Get some rest and find someone to lean on.

Answer 25

You deal with everything, the other parent deals with Chuck E. Cheese and brings them back full of sugar and cheese...

sighs.