Why is enough, never enough with my mom...?

Question

I try so hard. All the time. I try to give her perfection. I'm taking 3 AP classes right now and a bunch of Academic Classes just to prove to her what I can do. But do you think that's enough? No...It's not. Even perfection isn't enough with my mom. I swear, I'm trying so hard. After school, I need a small break. I usually get that break by going on the computer. She just gave me the computer and told me I have it until 9. I know I'm not an adult but I'm 16 and I try to work hard. Then I started crying in frustration and she called me a name for crying. I begged her to listen but she kept shutting me up. I'm not a bad daughter. I'm not perfect but I'm not bad...I don't ask for anything. I haven't asked for my license. I don't even expect for her to help me with buying a car so I can go to the University. (I wish she would, but if she doesn't, I wouldn't hold it against her.) All I ask for is the couple of hours of mental break with the computer but no. And then I had to set up my bookbag before I could use the computer and she's like, "You better do that later because you won't be coming to me with the BS of I was working and I couldn't use the computer." She didn't even ask me to do the responsible thing first! I was doing it on my own! But even then I'm wrong! I do everything to please her. And nothing will ever be good enough. I love my mom. But she can be so unfair sometimes.

Answer 1

i have the same problem with my parents. just think about when you get to move out and never see her again, that's what i do

Answer 2

Maybe she's going through a hard time and she's taking her frustrations out on you. Or maybe she wants you to be what she isn't so she's pushing you. Just talk to her, I know that's hard to do but establish your lines of communication with her to break any ice.

Answer 3

Hey, don't be sad. Besides I always thought you were the optimistic one in this forum.=)

Remember, that you should never have to meet anyone's approval but your own. If your mom thinks that you aren't doing good enough in school, that' s her problem, not yours. You should be getting good grades, not for her, but for you, hun.

And if this doesn't help, then perhaps you should sit her down and tell her everything you're telling us, and if she doesn't spare you her attention, then that's her issue. Be who you are and embrace it.

=)

Answer 4

Well maybe she just wants you to do well. But just make her listen. Sometimes it takes yelling and making her break down first. She will have to listen if you make her. And trust me it IS possible! Just tell her that she needs to stop pushing you past perfection! Tell her that you can't do anything more than what you already are doing! And tell her that she needs to let you have some relax time! Make her let you speak!!

Answer 5

=( she wants you to be the best that you can be but she sounds like she's too abrasive. and not very understanding either...