Why is everything i do wrong ?

Question

everything i do is wrong! everytime there seems to be a problem and i try to help, it backfires twofold! and people get .

So there's some weeds growing in front of our house, my dad's been complaining about that.

So this afternoon i go outside and clean it up and start dumping it in the abandoned lot next to our house.

This lot has been abandoned for over 12 years, and as long as I remember.

Apparently, the old lady next to us, does like that and starts shouting after me. So, in my defense my mother comes outside and starts shouting back at her.

Truth be told, we never did get on well with that lady.

My mom keeps telling me not to worry, its not my fault. But I still feel, guilty. All I was doing was trying to help, but once again, led to trouble.

Its things like this that makes me apprehensive of social situations, I can never seem to see an embarassing situation coming!

After all, if it wasn't for my "good intentions" my mother wouldn't end up arguing with this lady like stereotypical black people!

Its like, i am a book smart nerd who knows nothing else!

Me, 17, visiting, home from college.

I know this isn't exactly a question, I just want some feedback, so please don't report/delete it.

Cuz I feel like **** now

Answer 1

UHHH i dont know how to give you feedback but dont blame yourself lots of people are like that thanks for the 2 points

Answer 2

Only a small part of what you did was wrong.  Only the disposal of the weeds was wrong, that doesn't make the thought and act of removing them wrong.  That was awesome that you did that for your dad.  If your parents didn't point that out - shame on them.  In almost every situation in everyone's life - there is positive and negative aspects.  It's up to you to find the positive and concentrate on that.  The only thing the negetive is good for, is learning from it.

Answer 3

So you have a busy body old neighbor who has nothing better to do but police the neighborhood. I wouldn't dwell on it too much.

Answer 4

First, there's no way that "everything" you do is wrong!  It seems like that because you're self conscious about how you interact with people, so you're hypercritical about everything you do.  This lead to putting way too much fault on yourself if things don't go the way you thought they should have.  Another thing is if you don't spend a lot of time around others in social situations, you don't give yourself a chance to learn how to interact, which makes you more self conscious, which makes you more critical of yourself, which makes you not want to spend time around others and you get into this horrible cycle.  You need to relax, stop putting so much pressure on yourself.  In cases like with the weeds, before you started dumping them in the lot, maybe you could have asked your mom or dad where you should leave them once you got them up (good for you for taking the initiative to get them up in the first place, though).  

Ask your friends to help you learn how to deal better with others, and maybe you should get into some activities at school that mesh with your interests.  In this way, you're around others in a social situation, but there's an activity, so you don't have to worry about what's expected of you.  In doing the activity you get used to being around the others, so you stop feeling so worried about being around other people, then you'll start to be able to be more yourself.

And quit beating yourself up so much, everybody makes mistakes, at least your came from trying to do something nice!

Answer 5

i don't think u should blame yourself. trust me I'm 17 and know exactly how u feel but think about it like this it coul of been worse. keep your head up

Answer 6

because your always negative about everything.. you need to loosen up..

Answer 7

While it's basically good to be sensitive, it sounds like you might be more sensitive that is good for you, mentally speaking.  

Our judgment improves with age and experience, and so maybe some things that go wrong, such as you tossing weeds onto someone else's property, will subside as you learn more about how to be a good neighbor.   (I, BTW, have a neighbor who does that on my property, which I must admit, part of it does look abandoned, because it's not land I use).

Answer 8

then you shouldn't do anything. just wait for them to tell you what to do.