Why is he doing this to me? ?

Question

One of my friends told me he loved me a few weeks back.. It was very stressful for us both. He knows I have a partner and a son and I have made it clear that it will stay that way.

If we ever go out anywhere he will be fine around us all and then when Im home he will text me saying he never wants to speak to me again etc etc... I dont know why.. Then I will say its ok i understnad if staying away will help you.. Then he will beg me to talk to him?

What am I supposed to do :( I cant do anything right.

He also tries making me jelous by asking me to get certian girls numbers for him etc and I just cant see why? Ive tried almost everything I can think of with him and other girls etc and nothing seems to work.

How do I help him?

Answer 1

dump the friend

Answer 2

tell him he knows that you have a family and they come first especially your son. tell him you still want to be friends but your finding it difficult becuase of the way he behaves after being out.tell him he will have to stop being the way he is overwise it will be difficult to be friends any more.

Answer 3

You're obviously leading him on - in spite of how one sided your write up is.  He deserves what you're putting him through because he's putting up with the least of it to begin with.  He should have told you to F/O right when your c**p started.

Answer 4

He's obviously very jealous of your relationship with your partner and is trying everything for you to get with him. He clearly likes you a lot but if you believe this could be a lust then don't go for it, it won't be worth it. Tell him straight, everything you've just wrote. Don't text him back and ignore his petty remarks, he's not a friend if he does that to you. He'll eventually leave you alone.

Answer 5

"If we ever go out anywhere " .. wait a sec.. Why are you going out? You have to make a choice! Loose him or take him. Loosing him means good-bye, no going outs.

Answer 6

Tell him you are going to speak to your partner about him.

Answer 7

You can't help someone like that! He's hopeless. Just find someone else to waist your energy on. He's obviously not worth your time. He sounds like he's a confused individual and don't know whether he wants to be with you or dump you. I say don't answer any more of his calls. Move on!  

Answer 8

Tell him you don;t want to chat to hime ever again, its for the best

Answer 9

cut off all contact. dont call him, dont txt him, dont see him if you can avoid it and if you do see him dont speak to him.

Answer 10

Help him and yourself by staying away from him.  He will not enjoy your company at this point anyway, since it's just eating him up that he wants you but can't have you.  And he may seem harmless, but situations like this can sometimes escalate into stalking behavior, or even violence.  Think of your partner and your baby.  Tell him, "I like and respect you a lot as a friend, and possibly in another life, we could have been a great couple.  But not in this one.  I think we could both use a little breathing room here.  Let's just take some time off from one another."  Be firm.  Good luck!  Oh, and if you start getting weird hang up phone calls in the middle of the night, or your boyfriend's tires get slashed, you know who to tell the police to look for.

Answer 11

he sounds very high maintenance !

tell him that you can't carry on as it is because he's being so unreasonable about the whole situation , my opinion is that you get him out your life 4 good cause his actions might cause trouble in your relationship with your b/f

Answer 12

He sounds conflicted and its getting in the way of your friendship. Lay it on the line with him- either he wants a normal, healthy appropriate friendship with you or he doesn't, and if he can't respect your situation then he's not someone you want to hang out with. He sounds like he's trying every trick in the book to get your attention but thats unhealthy too. He needs to move on because his obsession with you can become dangerous and unstable somewhere down the road. You have a family and a partner you have to care for- not him. So just explain to him that you value his friendship but if he can't respect what you have, then you will have to sever the friendship and completely. No phone calls, no text messages- just ignore and erase them all. Don't allow yourself to feel guilty or stressed either- this is his issue, not yours. Good luck!