Why is he playing with me.?

Question

m heavily pregnant(8 months) and i think my partner is playing games with me. he left me a few months ago and ignored me for weeks on end but we sorted things out and got back together. Anyway he lives with me and there seems to be a cycle to his behaviour. he is nice to me for about 5 days and stays at our house then he makes an exuase 2 go and stay at his parents house for a couple of days, its like when he gets bored of our bing with me he just goes bk. before anyone suggests there is def not another girl involved i know this for def. anyway when he is away he doesnt really make any effort to contact me at all and when i need him to help me or i call him he ignores me. hes not working so he isnt busy.if i mention that this behaviour is upsetting me he just cuts me off completely even thou he knows thats it stresses me out. i have tried to make him understand that i need help and support at this stage and seeing as im at the last stage of preg he should be here seeing as his mum only lives 20 mins away he could just drive back here. he doesnt understand though or is choosing not to listen. Anyway after a few days of being away he usually comes back and is perfect partner again tells me he loves me. i dont now what to do its like he's just with me to pass time? im confused

Answer 1

he wants the baby ?? yes

he wants you ???? yes

but i think he doesnt want to do anything with your pregnancy . he feels that you can do this all on your own and he doesnt want to bother himself helping you through

he is just lazy ... like you mentioned before he doesnt work he just want to have fun all time

i bet he used to spend lots of time with you before you get pragnent

he is just freaking out but when you have the baby i think he will be better than his

best of luck to you

Answer 2

He is just that type of guy. My ex was almost exactly the same as the man you describe here....he told me himself that that's just the way he is. Guys like these somehow feel uncomfortable attaching themselves to a particular person or situation (not that they are necessarily polygamous). They may also feel uncomfortable showing emotions.

Sorry, but he will always find ways to "run" and go somewhere else....he may be the type who cannot stay still and always wants something new. Maybe you both can work on something. Like do something completely different from what you would normally do in a day. I'm not sure what to tell you exactly, you'll have to figure out what changes to incorporate as you know him better than I do. All the best~

Answer 3

He is a complete immature jerk and definitely not ready to be a family man. Why is he NOT working? Why did you hook up with him in the first place? Who is paying the bills? You both sound like you need counseling.

Answer 4

Well that is hard on you especially in your situation. Is he insecure with you, did he ever feel like you cheat on him, were you very sexually active before you got pregnant? These you may need to think about too adding more stress.

He should be honest and tell you what is the problem. This time you need to stop show him you are desperate and talk to him hiting the point that you want to get accross to him.

I would say that is a sad situation for you. I wish you the best and for the baby.

Answer 5

Well it's too late to seek a termination, so you're going to have to give birth to this baby. Do you really see a future with him? Does he really want this baby? To call his bluff why not say "Since you don't seem to want to spend any time with me or our baby, I think the best thing to do is to have it adopted out." See what his reaction is. If he agrees - then it's your worst fears answered, but if he suddenly snaps into his responsibilities, then you've won. I don't know your partner - but does he suffer from any form of depression and hence the cycle?