Why is he so afraid of me finding out??

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i suspect my longterm boyfreind is playing with me.he keeps taking breaks from me he says for freedom,but i can never reach him on his cellphone.when i did there was this woman laughing in the background.i was pregnant to him, and he came back to me,said he missed me.now he has gone again.he bought new underwaer b4 he left. he is at home evry night,but often on his lunchbreaks his cell will be off,and he seems afraid i will find out.why wud he come and go if he had another woman? why is he so afraid i will find out??

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You've asked the same question three times in three different ways in less that thirty minutes. What the h**l is your problem? No wonder your boyfriend is avoiding you. Too much time with you probably gives him an uncontrollable urge to hang himself. Go the mop the floor or something and leave us alone.

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bwoop bwoop~~those are the red flags going up~~ he wants his cake and apparently eating it too~~~

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Sounds like you have nothing better to do than keep on repeating the same questions over and over!

Well,

Thanks for the points!!!

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Why do you keep asking the same question over and over again? Thanks for the points.

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I think the real question you should be asking yourself is: WHY AM I BOTHERING W/ THIS GUY?!  

Sweetie, he's obviously not committed to you or being with you long term.  Why would you keep yourself or your child in this roller coaster situation?  Wouldn't you rather be with someone who loves you with his whole heart & shows it through his actions?  Be careful what you choose.  The man that's in your child's life will teach both good and bad habits.  So much of how we behave as adults can stem directly to what we learned & grew up in as children.  If you have a son, do you want him to learn that it's ok to treat women like this?  If you have a daughter, don't you want her to see a mother with more self-esteem than this?  You're just letting him come in and out of your life as he pleases.  If I were you, I'd move on.  Tell him you're fine with him being in the child's life if he'd like to but that you want to provide a more permanent, stable, figure for your child and for you.

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He is a loser. He doesn't want to hurt you or lose his baby. If you were not pregnant he would be long gone by now. He is sticking around to help you with the kid. I bet within a year of it's birth he will leave you for the other girl. Anyone that cares about you would not be so secretive and need so many "breaks"  

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Ok, this is the third time I have read this question from you all of the question boards.......the answer is always going to be he is using you as a back up and you are letting him.....but keep asking you might just get the answer you are looking for

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IF he is cheating, why does he come back?

i fear my long term boyfriend may be cheating on me. he keeps taking 2 month breaks from me, and i can't reach him on his cellphone.when i did some nasty woman wud always be laughing in the background.he came back to me again for 2 months, then he started buying new underwear and headed off again. i spied on him nd only ever seen him with male colleagues,but something is going on.he keeps returning my calls and still keeping me on a string.if there was another woman, why is he so afraid of me catching him? why does he keep coming back to me and stringing me along?

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Because YOU let him come back. -Duh!

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because he is an immature boy..

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by Real Talk Member since:

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He comes back because you let him.

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Yes, he's cheating. He comes back to you because you let him, and because two (or more) girls are better than one. Have some self respect, or don't expect men to respect you. Drop this guy and find someone good for you!

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he is a sorry *** man ask him

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Because you are an easy target.

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wants it all

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Convenience. He sees you as a sucker.

Why settle for being his fall-back position? Let him live alone with nobody, or nasty women, or whatever.

Be the one that got away. You cannot make HIM be the one you wish he was.

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sounds like he is using you, dump him

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Because you allow it.

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Who cares why!! MOVE ON!!!

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why do you let him continually do that to you? You need to tell him that's it's over and set his things outside on the curb. He's cheating on you and you need to find someone else. You shouldn't be letting him get away with what he is doing. Good luck!

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You entertain him while he is looking for a new Fbuddy.

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You allow it. Give him the boot for good and go on with your life.

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Leave him

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He's keeping you as BACKUP incase his other relationship fails. Don't talk to him anymore!!!

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Because he can.... you're still there, aren't you???(fool!)

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Well you let him.

If he knows you still have feelings for him

He will juggle with feelings and make you feel

Bad For nothing you have done. This has happened

To Me Before So i know how you feel. Dont let it

Get to you

Hope I helped!

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i am glad to see you are opening yourself up to the fact that he is cheating. your question has now changed for the better a little. he keeps coming back because he can, i know its hard to believe but it really is that simple. it is convenient and you are always there and he knows it. he does not come back because he loves you, it is a force of habit. you need to not be there when he comes back, he does not deserve to have someone waiting for him.

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Although I just let my ex-husband come back one time, it was only because he had no where else to go...end of story. He started cheated immediately after coming back to me. That is why he is now my ex. Poor girl he just married has no idea what she is in for. You need to drop him no matter how hard it is or deal with it. Sorry, you can't win in this situation.

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He will continue to go back to you as long as you Allow him to.

You are the one who needs to cut the string he is keeping you on.

He feels that he can do whatever he pleases, and you will always be there for him to walk on.

Don't be his door mat!

Demand respect for yourself!

You deserve better!

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Get a backbone stop letting this looser come back. He sees you as a weak woman who will always be there for him show him that you mean business and you are strong enough to let him go.

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Sweetie, that doesn't even need a paragraph to answer.....

He wants to have his cake and eat it too!!!!! Open your eyes!!!!!

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BECAUSE HE CAN!! You leave that door wide open for him to walk back in anytime he feels like it. He can just walk in and walk all over you, because YOU let him. Your fault, not his. IF you have any ideas at all that this means he CARES about you, think again - but this time, use your brain. Cheating on you is only part of what he does behind your back - no doubt he does plenty of things normal women would not tolerate their boyfriends doing. He is NOT afraid of you catching him - he is just a very sneaky underhanded person who gets his jollies from being that way. You are his entertainment - so JUMP! Wait.... you better ask him how high first!

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Obviously, he comes back because you let him. If being a #2 or #3 is fine with you, then stick with him. Otherwise, avoid him like the plague.

P.S.

I guess it's unanimous... All of us have the same answer!!! Wake up!!!

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If You Truly Believe In Your Heart He Is Cheating On You, Why Waste Your Time? I'm Sure You Love Him But For Him To Continue To Play Games With Your Emotions He Cant Respect You Much, Don't Worry About The Other Woman He Cant Respect Her Much Either Because He Keeps Running Back To You. I Once Asked A Friend Of Mine Why He Cheated On His Wife He Told Me Its Not That He Felt Anything For The Other Woman He Didn't Even Care For Her It Was That She Was Something Different.  

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because he doesnt want you ringing him all the time or annoying him ,your a very jealous peson and will lose him

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ARE YOU STILL LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO TELL YOU THIS GUY WANTS YOU?

THIS PERSON ALREADY POSTED THIS QUESTION UNDER A DIFFERENT "QUESTION"  TITLE - EVERYONE TELLS HER HE IS A LOSER - SHE DOES NOT HEAR YOU!!  

Answer 12

It depends... what will you do if he finds out?  If he knows you'll leave him or set him on the straight and narrow, of course he's afraid.  

He wants you both and doesn't want to give either of you up.  Are you really that naive?