Why is it, that when MEN get MARRIED there life is "over" and when WOMEN get MARRIED there life just "starts"?

Question

is that really true? or is that just something some guy said from 1954 that's just been passed down throughout the years all over the world.

why is it that after a woman is married she is told to don't lose herself, don't let that man get too comfortable with you (to quit doing what he did to get ya) and have time for yourself?

this is just stuff that I've heard from other ppl, family and some friends...

comments?

Answer 1

It's just a saying.

It's not true. I got married and my life isn't over. In fact ours is still in the process of beginning and we're beginning it together. I personally don't feel my life is over.

Answer 2

I think you got it right. Someone said that a zillion years ago and 'cause guys (many not all) are idiots it happens.

Its a self perpetuating myth.

Ive heard so many guys say theyre going to half to quit golf because theyre getting married....before his wife even says anything about it.

If thats the kind of woman youre marrying...my advice is not to.

Answer 3

Because men are afraid of commitment.

Answer 4

Per s*x in the City, many women have the same issues with marriage.

As Seinfeld's George Castanza, put it "I feel that independent George is giving way to relationship George."

Marriage, indeed, requires a lot of sacrifice to one's individuality. You can't just blast to Florida for the weekend if it isn't in the budget. You can't just choose what color the bathroom wallpaper will be. You can't just choose where you want to live. You can't just choose what to do on holidays.

If you had a taste of what it is like to live independently on your own for a while (as most men do), you really value it.

Right now, the very independent Michele Obama has to play the mother and wife role...it's gotta be killing her. I hate that she has to do that...but that's part of marriage...often you have to put your oppress basically who you are for the good of the marriage. After awhile, you tend to 'lose' yourself.

On the other hand, single people feel like they are losing out.

That is why so many people try to live two lives...all their life.

A better solution, IMO, is to plan life in segments, so you can live intensely for short periods in certain roles, then come up for air and truly live independently (even while married).

Live like no one else, so you can live like no one else. Dave Ramsey

Answer 5

I guess I haven't heard that saying!!   If it was said, then I guess it came from a guy who was very unhappy from his decisions