Why is it always a negitave when people have kids at a young age?

Question

my mom had me when she was 19 and i think shes a fine mother

Answer 1

Some people are not ready to have kids at that age or for that fact any other age! Not sure why people talk so negative about people having kids at young age or getting married. I was 20 when i got married and 21 when i had my first baby. I am now 25 and we are expecting our third baby in sept. People see that and expect that i am on food stamps or wic or any other program (which there is nothing wrong with that but i am not on any of that stuff) i own a house and my husband who is also 25 has a great job making more money then half the people who like to talk c**p! Some of the people who talk c**p either cant have kids or in so much debt they cant breathe and talking c**p makes them feel better!

Answer 2

b/c people are ignorant

Answer 3

My mother in law had her first child at the age of 17.  She had another four children that followed.  Because she was so young, she didn't finish her education.  She never worked.  She never travelled.  She has very few interests because she never had time to explore her life.  She and her husband are always worried about money.

My mother had her first child at the age of 30.  She has travelled around the world.  She has met some presidents and leaders of countries and movie stars.  She worked for more than a decade before she was married.  She is a part of her community and people come to her for advice.  She is a collector and is able to afford a wondereful lifestyle.

Answer 4

Having kids at a young age is tough. I just had my first baby in June and just turned 19 in March. I got married right out of high school and got pregnant 4 months later. All of that so close together really forces you to wake up and smell the roses.

My husband has a habbit of not being able to hold a job so that has forced us to rely on WIC (and it has saved us TONS). Having a baby this young isn't something I regret or would want to change, but it's definitly something that if possible, should be planned out (as ours wasn't)

Answer 5

And she may very well be.

But as a rule when someone is so young they have not usually fully developed as a person themselves.  Now you add the awesome responsibility of raising another person.  Many young people are just not ready to cope with all that.

As to your mom--that is great.  Do me a favor though--instead of telling all of us she is a fine mother  GO TELL HER............And keep doing it.

Answer 6

19 is young, but certainly not a horrible age.  It's the kids who are still in high school.  You shouldn't be having kids when you have homework and gym class to attend.

Answer 7

At 19 I was having far too much fun to have a kid.

Answer 8

You thinking that 19 is an acceptable age to have a child is EXACTLY why it isn't ok.

Ever notice how these things have a waterfall effect?

Answer 9

Oh I wouldn't say it's always a negative.  Young parents definately have more energy.  However, they usually lack the the maturity and financial means of an older parent.  There's pros & cons to everything in life.

Another downer of having a child at such a young age, forces a person (hopefully) to have to grow up much quicker and not enjoy the pleasures of those late teen and early twenties years.  Time missed out on that sometimes, rears it's ugly head down the road, and once you miss it, it's gone.

I think it's better to wait.  But that doesn't mean young parents can't be great ones either.  Everyone's different, but why put that load of responsibility on yourself when you're still just a kid yourself (or haven't been an adult very long.)