Why is it bad,why should i stop i know i wont cross the line?

Question

the satan of self harming is back ,

i have a long history of self harming starting since i was 11 or 10

when i have wound i play with it sometimes i cut with small KNife*disgusting i know*but something in my brian was being happy ,not happy as happines its just something like drugs

i wont cross the line more that

still till now if i m stressed i enjoyed doing this even when my heart start to BEat faster,

ok why is self harming bad if i m careful with it

Answer 1

Hello,

(ANS) Self Harm is a way of turning ALL your hatred, negativity, stress, anger & rage AGAINST YOURSELF instead of letting those feelings out in a more healthy expression i.e. getting angry at someone or something.

**Turning your anger in upon yourself only hurts you & solves nothing. This is precisely why the problem of self harming won't go away in fact its more & more likely to come back because you have pushed the feelings down inside instead of letting them out.

**Look feeling hurt, upset, angry, even violent rage etc. is totally 100% normal if your human. What matters is how & what you do with your feelings.

**Its OK! to have feelings, even feelings of anger, we all have such feelings. Its OK to get REALLY really angry about something. Its much better to be angry & let those feelings out. Because being able to be angry is actually quite powerful and so is the opposite, self harming is an expression that you feel powerless and self harming is a way or an attempt to take power back for yourself. Except its not a very good way to do that. Letting your real feelings out would be much better.

**Anger is still quite a taboo subject in our society, its something that we don't deal well with often.

Ivan.

Answer 2

If someone you cared about asked you this same question how would you answer?  

Imagine you have a daughter and she asks what you just asked.

Perhaps that will help you put it into perspective and help you to work out the answer for yourself.  You know the answer - you just need to think it through.  You don't need us to tell you.

Answer 3

u will never no wat a small cut will lead to... the next ones will b bigger then bigger again and then one day oops... u cut to deep in... now there is bloiod everywere and u have damaged a nerve...

if u were bleeding to death how would u feel then?

ur life one day will flash bfor u ... and all u will have to say for urself is... i enjoyed making small cuts on ym body...

u need to knock it in the head before eu cus urself some real damage... i had a friend like u ... 'i HAD a friend.." so really its no gd u need to stop before u really do urself damage

Answer 4

There's no 'safe' way to self-harm. I also have a history with this but thankfully haven't harmed myself in about 2 years. The last time I did this I slashed my arm with a serrated kitchen knife in one swift movement. This was the nastiest and deepest cut I have ever made and unfortunately it developed into a purple-coloured keloid scar which is raised up on my arm and very noticeable. Even now people make 'hilarious' comments about this to the effect of "Been self harming have we?" This is embarrassing and I occassionally struggle to come up with a story (despite lying, it obviously IS down to self harm)...

Do you have someone to talk to? Your GP can recommend counselling but you sometimes have to request this again and again (I know I did)... There's also internet forums which you can discuss your concerns with people in a similar situation... www.recoveryourlife.com is an online support community - be careful of 'triggerring' though.

Answer 5

A few years ago when I was around 14/15 I used to cut myself a lot whenever I was hurting or mad. It would make me forget all about the bad stuff that was happening and I thought it was okay too. I was wrong. The pain was only temporarily gone. But every time I looked at the wound or previous scars I was reminded of the bad times. I couldn't forget. I now have several scars from those few years ago all around my wrists and arms and I feel so ignorant. Their basically little reminders of EVERYTHING I went through back then. I hate them being there and I wish now that there was something else I could have done to deal with my misery. I honestly hope you have the courage and strength to quit this. I went to school wearing long sleeves in spring and summer because I was afraid people would see my scars or wounds and know I had issues. I still get that urge every now and then to hurt myself but I have to control it. There are other ways to calm down when you are upset or hurt.

*Take a hot bath

*Scream in a pillow

*Take deep breaths

*Cry

*Exercise

*Take a walk

*Come on Yahoo Answers =P

*Make a list of the good things in life

*Watch a disney movie

*Think of something funny

*Call or email a friend

*Hug a stuffed animal

*Get a pet cat (Cats automatically know when there is something wrong with you and will love on you)

*Read a book

*Watch some positive TV

*Take a Nap

*Squeeze a stress ball

Please don't hurt yourself anymore. It's not good for you. If you ever have a problem and need help just email me.

-Witch

Answer 6

Because it's generally believed to be a sign that you feel out of control of your life, and are unhappy. Self-mutilation is not 'normal' behaviour and so other people in your life will feel very distressed by it.

Although you feel now that you are in control of it, it can escalate into more severe acts including suicide.  Doctors often dismiss self-mutilation as 'attention seeking', but I have known several 'self-harmers' who eventually killed themselves.

So please get some help with this behaviour. Good luck

Answer 7

self harm is bad because you are damaging your body.

however that can give you one of the biggest 'buzz'es u could ever want.

the trick isn't to say that you'll be careful.

its to self harm to only an extent that you want to, and being able to keep control of what it is that your doing

Answer 8

When you say "careful", how medically qualified are you?  I mean, any fool can only make small cuts, and most people can sterilise something with Detol and boiling water, but do you fully understand the healing process and the long term effects on your overall immune system?

The physical stuff aside, there's the fact that your mental health is not exactly being helped if you deal with stuff by hacking away at your own flesh with a sharp instrument, is it?  I mean, sure, if you broke your arm, you could get by injecting morphine twice a day and probably still be able to do most everyday tasks - but it's hardly the same as having the arm reset, put in a cast for 4 to 6 weeks, a course of physiotherapy and a gradual return to normality is it?  

Your brain is a physical part of you, too, so if it's a bit broken, you need to think about how you're going to fix it.  Just like morphine, self harm is addictive and potentially very dangerous.

Answer 9

The risks of self-harm

By expressing themselves in this way, they may not be dealing with the underlying issues, such as depression or emotional pain.

People usually do it when they are on their own, and this can be a really isolating experience – they may not get the support they need to work it out.

There is a risk that one day, without meaning to, they may go too far, and die.

If they don't feel that people would understand, they may have to lie and cover up their cuts or burns. A lot of young people find this secrecy really difficult to maintain and stressful to deal with.

Cuts can become infected if not looked after, and can cause permanent scars.

Answer 10

i'm another self harmer and i did to relieve the pain and frustration of how i felt inside and i always thought it better to do it to myself rather than to another person. but it only relieves it for a short time i have found another outlet and i walk  and walk fast by the time ive finished walking for an hour im to exhausted and i feel a hundred times better, it also prevents me from scarring my arms to bits. try and find another outlet when you feel this low it does work but it takes time