Why is it men never get the hint that you're not interested?

Question

I'm a young woman and I would like to be able to walk down the street without being pestered by annoying men. Now while all my friends say they haven never been pestered I get it almost everytime I step out my door. I don't mind the builders whisteling or people asking for my number and then accepting when I say no but what I don't understand id the sort of man who is so ugly and old that you would never look twice at them and yet they still think they have a chance. They stop you on the street and try to start a conversation with you. Although you are looking obviously uncomfortable and wanting to get away they still continue to try and make conversation. When they eventually get round to asking for your number and you make a pathetic excuse of "I don't have a mobile" rather then seeing this as a major red light to say I'M NOT REMOTELY INTERESTED they keep you there and try to get you to give it to them or try and ask for another way to meet up. Now this has happened to me many many times and I just can't understand why a man as old and ugly as that firstly even bothers to approach and seems unable to get the message. Please can someone explain this to me. Thanks

Answer 1

No, honey, it is not their cultural.  They are men.  Most men are like that.  They do get the hint, they just choose to ignore it.  Good advice, make NO eye contact.  Learn to Ignore them, as if they are not talking to you.  You can act deaf, right??  If you have to talk, say you have a boyfriend, husband and usually they will leave you alone.  Wear a wedding band and that usually deters them.  If you are attractive, you will have this issue.  It can be a blessing or a curse.  I know still have this problem and I'm over 30.  

Answer 2

we prefer you tell it to our face because we are not mind readers. we like pokemon, video games and pot.

Answer 3

Your dress or demeanor is telling them you are interested.  They can tell you like the cat calls and are getting the vibe that you are up for grabs.  

Dress appropriately and ignore the cat calls.  If you act as if they are not there, there is no way they will be stopping you for your number.

People should be judged by their inner beauty not the physical shell that is going to deteriorate over time.

Answer 4

If these things are happening to you, then it's harrassment, plain and simple.  Get the police to move him on.

Answer 5

Men never get the hint! They are too interested in getting some to notice anything else haha. I think that if you keep getting stopped just tell them bluntly or say your boyfriend isnt gonna like you talking to me. Good luck!

Answer 6

Sounds like a quality problem, but you're not going to find too much sympathy ;-)  

I'm a woman.  It's taken lots of years to realize that unfortunately, I often attract what I focus on - good and bad.  You are consumed with this issue and you keep attracting it until you learn how to deal with it, or until you handle yourself differently.

Maybe you can look at these men in an unconventional way:  these are the traits that make civilation work.  If men didn't "keep at it," buildings wouldn't get built, marriages would never work, and men just wouldn't be men.  

Are you really that intriquing or is it possible that you dress and act in a way - consciously or not - that perpetuates this "problem?"  

I'm laughing b/c I sometimes seem to attract the very people I don't want to.  Then I wonder what's wrong with me!  You wonder what's wrong with them?! LOL.  So, maybe talk with one of these guys and ask them, point blank, why are you trying so hard with me?  Maybe they sense a vulnerability in you and see you as easy prey.  

Also in this world of equality, men are losing their power as they once knew it.  Sometimes their caveman instinct is just to get a bigger club and drag em home by the head of their hair.

Bottom line, look at what it is that YOU are putting out there.  Ask for a woman's perspective, too - someone who really knows you.

Answer 7

Well I would want you to be absolutely sure you knew what a good thing you were passing up.

I would hate you to make a hasty, impetuous. decision that you would later in life regret.

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Answer 8

Perhaps stop using 'hints' and tell it like it is. 'I am not interested in you and please do not bother me again' is the kind of language men understand.Hints just dont cut it my dear - unless of course you enjoy the attention at some level ?

Answer 9

maybe its juz you.. (know wat i mean)