Why is it ok to get an abortion, if the woman is raped?

Question

I am asking this because I struggle with this topic. I am pro-life but I am torn on this subject. I understand why women in this situation would do it but I am also concerned because the child do not choose to be in this situation either. I have asked a couple of questions today about abortion and rape keeps coming up and it seems to me that people think the child conceived because of rape is a lesser life. I would like to hear others views on this. If this question makes you mad, stop, do not answer. I only want well thought out answers.

Answer 1

Its traumatic for the woman to be raped.  Emotionally, psychologically, physically, spiritually, mentally and all the others ...ally.  And its an added injury, burden and trauma for her if she gets an unwanted pregnancy.  There are some who can't recover from it or takes too long to recover.  And if she proceed with her pregnancy, what will happen to her? To her future and the should be baby's future as well. Its a choice between which is lesser evil? That's why we can't blame them if they get an abortion.  

Answer 2

because a child will have the same genes of the mother and the father..would you want your child growing up with the genes of a rapist or murderer..and wondering your entire life if those genes will surface and that child could become a criminal

Answer 3

Think about it. Would you want the child that came from a rapist as a constant reminder of where it came from? I think not. I also don't think the baby would appreciate knowing that his "Father" was a rapist, and therefore is not involved in his/her life. What will the mother say when he/she asks "Where's Daddy?" "Out Raping other women"....

Answer 4

Image if you were raped and every single day you had to look at a reminder of that. This is often times torture for the mother and the child.

Answer 5

imagine what its like being the child as a result of rape? knowing what your "father" did to your mother and you are the result of that?

I dont know. I have no position on this issue. But i wouldnt judge someone for getting an abortion.  

Answer 6

I'm not sure if the answer you're recieving is because people think the child of rape is a lesser life, but it's a child that is a product of violence.

And it may not necessarily be "ok" to abort but maybe a little bit "easier" because of how the child is conceived. Personally, I'm not sure if I would be able to handle it either. I am a christian, single, no children but look forward to having my own one day (i know i would be a great mom). I do have good character and morals but I would hate to bring a child into this world that already has a major negative against it before it even gets here. the mother would have to constantly be reminded of the act and one day, someone would have to explain to that child, who their dad is and what happened. Then you could possibly have a snowball effect because children/teenagers are deeply effected by the acts of their parents. I mean that in every aspect. they could end up having some serious issues about knowing the truth and I don't think it would be right to withhold that type of information.(depending on the age of course).

Even if you take the scenario of the mother carrying the child full term and giving it up for adoption.  what if this women developed feelings and forms the natural bond with her unborn child but go through a hurricane of emotions and feels because of how the child was conceived, giving her child up for adoption, and feeling guilty about it.

I really don't believe that it is "ok" to abort but it's just so much that comes along with keeping a child of such a horrible act. I do understand that a child doesn't asked to be born to these situations but i really feel it's up to that woman to decide what's best for her mentally and emotionally.

Answer 7

I think so. I'm catholic but pro-choice all the way. Because I know that if i were raped I couldn't be around the spawn on a rapist staring me in my face all day, it'd only bring back bad memories.

Answer 8

I was 15 years old when I was brutally raped at knife point and I got pregnant from that rape....I didn't tell anyone that I was raped until 2 months later, because the man said he would find me and kill me if I said anything...I was terrified and although it wasn't my fault, I felt ashamed. I decided I had to say something, when I went 2 months w/o a period. I didn't sleep all night and when my dad came in to get me up from school, I told him. He took my brother and I to school and an hour later, I got called into the nurses office and was told my father was dead...He had died of a heart attack bought on by the news I had relaid to him. I had a abortion, because I knew I would never be able to look at the baby and not think about where he came from. I have some regrets, because it wasn't the babies fault....but I think I did the right thing.

Answer 9

wow, these pro lifers are seriously retarded. Its not a baby, thats what you can not understand, you are getting teary eyed over a fetus. Also, the world is already overpopulated, do we need more people running around? Why should she be forced to carry a fetus, then a baby for all those months, go through labor, ruin her body, just because some guy had to rape her. Then what is she going to do with the kid now? Every time you look at it it reminds you have what happened. The raper had some psychological problems, will that surface on the kid? Abortions are not bad, stop reading the bible (book of lies) and get some education in science.

Answer 10

"Pro Life" is a rubric that cover a lot of specific beliefs, but if by that you mean that you think that from the moment of conception the fertilized egg has/should have the same status as a full-term infant, I don't think there really is a way to rationally justify an exception for rape.

It was a crime to create the fetus, but nevertheless the fetus is created.  Nothing is different for it than if it was created any other way.

Personally, I don't think a fertilized egg has the same status as a baby, but if you do it's hard to make an exception based on the specific sequence of events that let to fertilization.

Answer 11

It's ok because how can a mother raise a child which will remind her for the rest of her life that she was rapped and made unwillingly pregnant. It's also not fair towards the child which will probably not understand why mom does not love him/her so much.

Answer 12

People who make that particular distinction are more interested in punishing the woman for an unintended pregnancy than in saving the life of a fetus.  Obviously if they are pro-life because they believe that abortion is murder, they wouldn't want a child conceived by rape to be murdered any more than one that was the result of a broken condom or a drunken one night stand.

Answer 13

I agree with what someone else said about the baby having bad genes... It cant have the genes to become a murderer or bad person but thats beside the point. What if the father has some kind of disease that would be passed onto the child and would cause him serious problems.  At least if you know the father has a problem, you would be prepared and more ready to handle the child and its problems.

Also, It would be very tough for the mother in that position.  Think about it, Its already hard enough when a women gets raped because for the woman, it is emotionally damaging. They usually think of them self as a bad person or they think it was their fault.  Its very tough for the woman and adding a baby into the picture will just make it worth.  An unwanted pregnancy is hard for a woman to handle but if it is not evan their choice to have the s*x in the first place, they would have serious problems.  It could cause depression and many serious problems for the mother.  Is it really worth it to put the mother (and eventually the child) through all the emotional (and possibly physical) damage?

Answer 14

I disagree with the people saying that the child would be a bad person because the father was bad person. We are not our parents. However, the issue i think is (and this is just my opinion) that it would be hard(er) for a mother to love their b*****d child of a rapist. There is an emotional link between a mother and child that would be damaged -- if not severed completely by the trauma of a rape. Every time the mother looked at the child there would be some remembrance of the tragic event.

And even though, as I said, we are not our parents, try convincing a mother who was raped of that when their child, because of the pressure of growing up without a father (and of knowing what he did), Lashes out and misbehaves in public..  

The mother would always think that the 'fathers side' was coming out in the child -- even if it is just the child coping with a tough situation.

I think that is why women need to be given a choice, because if you can't love a child with all your heart, how is it fair to bring them into the world?  It isn't.