Why is it so hard for many men to date women?

Question

Why is it so hard for many men to date women?

Answer 1

Statistics show that the average man either has a lot of sexual partners or very very few. Women on the other hand fall into a medium, the average woman has an average amount of partners. This trend follows evolutionary tendancies in human beings. Women tend to mate with the men with the best genes and the men with the best genes generally get into the most relationships. In our present society, these tendancies don't control everything (obviously) but they do play a role. Women tend to date men who they are very attracted to and don't often settle for less. These men are often highly desirable, and have other women interested in them as well. The men who aren't desirable, which is a large portion of the male population, get almost nothing. If they finally do get a girl, its after shes done dating around men who were very fit, and is now ready to settle for a man who is less fit (because very fit men are extremely difficult to settle with, as they have many other options). I know many people are going to get upset about what I just said here, but the truth is that under our composed, elaborate exteriors, we have the tendancies of any chimpanzee you'd find in the jungle.

Answer 2

For many reasons. Primarily because it takes a lot of SKILL and skills take TIME to develop.

Some men give up because its too stressful. Others become masters. It all depends on the man. However, I've found that in order for a man to date women easily (like I do) he needs three qualities:

1. Knowledge of what he can attract and what he can't

2. Understanding of basic female psychology

3. No strong need or desire to date a woman (in other words, he doesn't care if he wins or loses.. he is just enjoying the ride).

A lot of men care too much about what women think of them and take all of the nit-picking comments women (especially feminists) say about the male population too personally and seriously.

Also, men have to do the approaching in most cases and risk the embarrassment of getting rejected.

In short. For most men.. dating is like the stock market. You have to put in work and invest time and money before you even know what the outcome will be. Think about THAT.

And just like knowedge of stocks and money will decrease your risks of losing your money. Knowledge of women will decrease your risk of getting rejected.

Answer 3

I learned something only way after I got out of the dating scene and got married: Most men think that they are the one's that are the "hunters bagging the chicks" by using lines, etc. HOWEVER, it is the woman who chooses the man.

A woman has a whole set of ideas of the things that they find attractive in men. And it's very unique from men's ideas (the way  a man carries himself, facial expressions, etc.). She will usually have her mind made up about a guy within minutes of him walking through the door. She will have her own subtle ways of telegraphing her desire.

A lot of men (like me) are dumb to this fact and miss the opportunity from the women who are interested in us. So, we go ahead and waste our time acting like the big macho hunter with the cool lines on the women who aren't interested in us. Some of us try and try like a persistent salesperson.  Sometimes we are lucky in the fact that the "chick we've gone to bag" is actually one who is also interested in us. But things would be so much easier if I would have just stressed less and let nature take its course by being more sensitive and receptive to what was going on around me.

Answer 4

I think "from personal experience" because the men know that what they really need is a prostitute not a regular woman.

They're trying to get laid not get a date who might be a partner to them so they feel guilty and therefore it is hard to ask a girl out, all the guilt guilt guilt.

Answer 5

I wish you would elaborate on this.  Not sure what you are asking-what do you mean it is hard for men to not date women?  Are younger men different today than they were 20 years ago per dating?  Are you referring to finances?  

Do you mean they stay home and watch tv with the girl (instead of going out on a date?)

Answer 6

I think having to pretend to listen and look interested is the main problem for most men.

Answer 7

with so many fake and playing women around; men tend to be a little picky themselves these days..

-it's more a matter of choice, i gez..

Answer 8

Because most men don't understand women and think way differently, and It's hard for them to adapt to that woman, I guess.

Some just aren't made for eachother.

Answer 9

I think you've been misinformed dear.

Answer 10

it is? o.0

I must have missed something....perhaps they are g*y and dont like women.  Or at a stage in their life they dont want distractions.

or perhaps this is a personal issue...not a gender one.

Answer 11

Why? What does a woman have to do to get a date? Put on some s**y clothes and go to a place where she knows men hang out. Then she sits and waits and has the option to choose whomever she wants, if there is anyone.

A man has to dress the way a woman wants, smell the way a woman wants, speak the way a woman wants, act the way a woman wants and look the way a woman wants. Then he has to be confident but not too much. Daring, but not too much. Exciting. Interesting. A good conversationalist. A good listener. Willing to spend on her but not buy her.

Before all of that he has to have the courage to get up and go talk to her and not make a bad first impression or the above won't matter at all.

That's why.

Answer 12

To be honest with you. If I was still single today , I probably wouldn't be in a monogamous relationship. With women having just as much s*x as men these days, what is the incentive for a man to date when he can have a different women every week.