Why is it so hard for men to be romantic and to show that they care??

Question

My man only shows that he cares once and while and when i want to talk he roles over and goes to bed and says we will talk about it tomarrow!! is it that hard to listen and show that you care when were hurting!!

Answer 1

It depends on the person. People show that they care in many different ways - for you, it may be listening that shows he cares; for him, it may be fixing the plumbing when it's broken. Then you end up thinking he doesn't show he cares, and he ends up thinking you don't appreciate what he does. Are you sure he's not showing his care in some way that you're simply overlooking? This is not to say that he shouldn't try and speak your language, this is simply saying that you first need to acknowledge that you speak different languages instead of simply bashing him and accusing him of insensitivity. This shows lack of understanding on your part as well as on his.

Answer 2

Men are just not wired, generally, not to be warm and fuzzy types until they get the urge to merge and then they'll do anything to accomplish that.

However, that does not mean he doesn't want you to stop being romantic. He just won't respond in the same way.

And this is why we keep our gal pals when we get married. They understand us, listen to us, and comfort us when we need it. Men tend to be problem solvers, not problem listeners.

Hope that helps!

Answer 3

It's not. It might be for him, but that's the way he is, not the way men are. Use I-statements and explain that you feel like he's not listening when he does that.  

Answer 4

This is weird. Not all men are like that but most are. My fiance doesn't do this to me anymore but he use to. Here's something that I did to stop him from doing that.

When your man wants to have s*x, turn over and say I don't feel like it. When he wants to talk, turn over and say I don't feel like it. When he wants you to make him something to eat, go lay down and say, I don't feel like it. You get the point right?

I had to do this to my man before he got the point! It works, trust me.

Answer 5

It's not hard to show that you care if you really do care...maybe you need to find a new man...

Answer 6

Try talking to him in the car rather than in bed. I've found that when my guy's in bed he shuts down and only wants one of two things--sleep or s*x. In the kitchen he's busy, in the living room he's watching TV...but in the car, he's just driving. Wait until a time when traffic is light and bring it up.  

Answer 7

It's really not for most. It all depends upon your choice....

Answer 8

Maybe it's just the type of guy he is, you can't change him though.  My fiance is so sweet and romantic. He's more thoughtful than me sometimes!

I guess it's just the guy you love isn't as romantic as some others, so you have to weigh the pros and cons of that.

Answer 9

Well, all men aren't that way.  If yours is, you need to make it clear that your feelings are important and you need to talk to him.  Don't wait until you're in bed to do this, do it when you can both sit down and talk, not when you're tired.  Let him know that it is important to communicate if the relationship is going to work and he is not fulfilling that need.  

Answer 10

I don't think it is hard for all men. I think some people-men and women-are romantic. Some aren't.

My guy is very romantic.

Answer 11

Usually, it's either because they're scared but they want to be romantic or because they really aren't into you, you should get to know him better, maybe he won't be as scared next time :)

Answer 12

because society has made man to be macho and touch...not romantic and lovey dovey..