Why is it so hard for men to express their love towards women?

Question

Lately my boyfriend has not told me I Love you first like he usually does. We have been together for 7 years and he wants to marry me in a couple of years. In fact he is supposedly going to propose to me this year. Do you think he is having doubts about us getting married, or possibly getting cold feet. I really don't know about men very well. Please help. No rude comments please.

Answer 1

You and about a kajillion other women are in the same place.  Some guys are stinging her along and some are getting cold feet and some are waiting for that time you would NEVER expect he would ask.  The waiting is killing you I know but it can have such a big payoff.  I harly ever give this kinda advice but when you get to the one year before the wedding day might happen start putting out wedding ring adds from the Sunday newspaper out so he can see them.  This will kick him into overdrive so he will think about this much more often.

Answer 2

You are one very patient woman, waiting as long as you have and yet, he's not rushing into anything. He hasn't even proposed, and "may" marry you in two more years.

I don't think the problem is, men find it hard to say I love you, which many do, it's just the way we are.

But something isn't right with your relationship, if it has gone all time time, with out, having a wedding.

Actually you have been together, longer than most people are married.

I won't be rude, if I can, I will say this though, most men, won't buy the cow, when he is getting the milk for free.

Time to talk to him and see where you are going. If he is still unsure, and won't name a date, then sweetie, it's time to move on, and learn more about men.

Answer 3

It sounds like he's managed to arrange the relationship pretty much exactly as he wants to feel comfortable.  He's had a girlfriend for seven years that he hasn't had to marry, he doesn't feel the need or desire to volunteer an "I love you," and so on.  It sounds pretty easy and commitment free.  Or it could be totally different.  More to the point, how do you feel?  Do you really want to marry him and spend more of your lifespan with him than you already have, or is it that maybe you could be getting cold feet?  There's no right answer; it's just something to think about.