Why is it so hard for people to acknowledge others?

Question

In the Diet and Fitness section, I always hear people complain about how they can't lose weight and they have no motivation and recently I thought I tried something different and have people motivate me through actually doing something, I broke a record today on the treadmill by burning a little over 800 calories and wanted to share it with everyone and no one would reply so I just deleted it. It seems like it's the same with people in general, since I've moved to this new state nine months ago I've lost 60 pounds and I live in a small neighborhood so people know everything that is going on, and I swear NO ONE compliments me. Its not that I'm fishing for compliments but what is wrong with acknowledging someone for their hard accomplishments? If I saw someone look good, and making the best out of their life, I would definately say something. I'm all for brightening someone's day. Why is it so hard for people to just say, "Hey, you're doing great, keep it up" or something to that nature

Answer 1

People are usually very self absorbed beings. In general people are doing their own thing and hardly notice others. If it's attention you want, why not start by just talking to more people? Also, why not try to meet new ones? If people around you are not giving you the attention you need, perhaps you need new friends. You can't expect people to just come to you and compliment you all the time.

Also understand, someone complimenting you will only make you feel good for a little while. When that feeling is gone, you will be fishing for more compliments to feed this. Why not just start by doing things to make YOU feel better instead of worrying what others think. If you feel better about you, maybe you won't have this need so much. Sure, attention is nice but you certainly don't want the wrong kind, do you? Focus on being happy with you and eventually someone is bound to notice. Maybe try other things too, like do something different with your hair or buy a new outfit. Compliments come when you least expect it, so stop expecting it and they will come! People are attracted to confident people so do things to improve your confidence. Hope this helps, good luck!

Answer 2

back when i lived in Arizona (im back in illinois now) i had this friend and i always felt like she'd acknowledge things in others, but when it came to me she never really said anything! so i would always get mad at her by saying, "the little things people do mean the most" i dont think she ever really understood me! i wrote all my feelings and everything into something like a note, but it was only something i write to get my feelings out and i asked her to read it! i STILL dont think she understands... but now i just think of her as a pretty selfish person and so i dont really care to care anymore, i wont force someone to be a better friend to me! my mom also told me something that's never occured in my mind before tho, she said sometimes what you think is most important isn't quite as important to someone else! i'd never really thought of that, but it's helped me to stop caring so much about alot of things!

but i understand you in EVERY WAY! i always ask myself the same things, but people never understand me-- i dont like to seem like im fishing for compliments or that im L*****n or whatever it's kind of like being considerate of others!

Answer 3

Congratulations on your weight loss.You are to be complimented for doing it. But isn't it unreasonable to expect others who are not close to you to make a big deal of it? It  might  be awkward for them to say, in effect "Gee, you aren't as fat as you used to be,"