Why is it so hard to be happy?

Question

im always sad i drink all the time and i never have thoughts of suicide but i feel like im not getting better and im living just to breathe ppl think im happy so i pretend to be when in reality im nowhere near that

Answer 1

Try Prozac, it's helped me tremendously for anxiety and my friend takes it for depression.  Ask your doctor.  It works.

Answer 2

Its because the bad things in life always out weigh the good things.

don't pretend anything, I'll only be fooling yourself.

get some help, even if its just talking to a friend or even ppl online?

it might feel as tho u are but ur not the only person who feels like this,

i get terrible depression but i wont bore u with all that.

But dont pretend to be happy man, that wont solve anything

Answer 3

It really depends on what your definition of happiness is.

Answer 4

Well if you ask me why it is so hard, it is because it is the one thing we always want. From the time we wake up in the morning until we go back to sleep we are always trying to find something, anything , to make us feel good. This sounds so shallow I realize and when I first came to this idea I thought it was harsh. But when I stopped and considered the truth of it, I then was able to accept that this is just how we are.

So then if that is the deal, why were other people able to find that thing that "does it" for them and I was not? I really didn't understand WHY they felt good about their lives and what they found important, but it seemed like everyone else was at least comfortable where they were in life and I just never was able to find my OWN comfort level. I started to fear I didn't have one. And now I realize that in truth, I don't.

I came to see that what makes others happy perhaps, is the pursuit itself. They are running and going and doing all the time because that in and of itself makes them feel value maybe or have purpose. I wanted something more, something different, something big. I did as you say, and pretended like things were cool with me, but really deep down I just didn't seem to have what it took to find much satisfaction with this life.

To answer your question more directly, I think it is so hard to feel this happiness we are searching for, because we are not satisfied with what life has to offer. We might get a few lifts here and there but even when we do come across something that does fill that desire for happiness, it starts to leave the very moment we get it.

I finally wanted to figure out why I had to just pretend I was ok with my life and learn how I could actually be satisfied with who I was and what I had. What I found has really helped me. I have discovered not only the reason I always felt like I did, but more importantly how I could change it.

This video is really great in explaining what you have asked about here, and might allow you to see what you can do to change how you feel. It really helped me to learn the reason why I was not happy, because without knowing that first, I could not move on towards learning how I could be. I wish you all the best.....Good luck!

Answer 5

Just to let you know alcohol is a depressant so drinking while sad isn't a good idea in the first place.

So far as not being happy, re-evaluate your life recently. Are there any recent break-ups, lose a job, lost a family member, anything at all that could make anyone sad?

If not, get out and enjoy life, do new things, hang out with friends and make new ones.

If so, you've got your reason, and everyone has a different way of handling problems, you just need to find yours.

Here's hoping to you finding this helpful.

Answer 6

A mental health professional maybe the answer and right away!