Why is it so hard to make friends as an adult? ?

Question

My parents moved me a lot as a child so I never got those "lifelong" bonds with friends you make in school and living in the same area.

Why is it so much harder to make friends as an adult than when you were a kid or teenager?

Answer 1

because is easier when you are a teenager cause you hang out a lot and you be in school most of the time ! when you get to be an adult there is not a lot of time to hang out and be with friends everything is about paying rent and other responsibilities. well just try to make friends in the place where you work at or just be yourself around people and friends will come.

Answer 2

Well when people grow up they develop expectations for everything in their lives including the kind of friends they want plus also the fact that friendships are not all that matters anymore.

If you want to make fun friends, go out clubs and social events but for professional friends try colleagues!

Answer 3

Probably because as a kid/teen you HAD to go to school and be around the people all the time.  As an adult you can come and go as you please.  Plus as an adult you're wiser as to what a REAL friend is.

Answer 4

I don't think it' hard at all to make friend as an adult. You just have to be yourself and don't be shy. Are there people in your work place that you get along with. I met people all the time from previous jobs that im still in contact with until this day.

Answer 5

Because adults are more complex and practical, there innocence is gone, and they are always looking for profits. Plus, adults are more busy with their family and work.  

Answer 6

b/c people are more focused on their families when they get older, most get togethers are with family and family friends...

Answer 7

I agree.  It is harder.  Our social networks change and we have work, church, and if you dare to go to bars or clubs.  But what kind of REAL friends can you meet at a bar.  Try to find out if there are any online places for people in your area.  Maybe they have a group that gets together.  Or how about a singles group at a church.  That might be even better.  You have to look for friends, they don't just drop out of the sky.  Most of my friends live in Ohio, and I am in WV.  So I know where your coming from.

Answer 8

Because you have grown to be a strong person and refuse to deal with anything less.

When we're kids, we get over dis-apointment fast, cause we just want to have someone to hang with...

I prefer not to have to many friends, to much going on in my life to deal with others.

Plus, I married my best friend, I have the best of both worlds!

Answer 9

Because adults have more things to focus on like work, families, etc.

Whereas children and teenagers just focus on school and friends.

Answer 10

yes it is! Most adults have friends from high school and stuff! That is why it is so hard, and we also have families and work and we dont have alot of time or friends!  

Answer 11

Because you and everyone else is so busy with everything else going on in their lives...