Why is it so hard to make friends?

Question

The older I get, the harder it is to make friends. Why is that? I'm a good person. I surround myself with good people. But I find people to be judge mental towards me, and not responsive to me. What can I do to get to know people?

Answer 1

As we grow older, our priorities & interest changes. The old set of friends that we have seems to be out & not longer in sync with us. Thus it is always important to have a continuous flow of new friends. Old friends that no longer fits into our lives become acquaintances.

Visit places that interest you or you have an interest in like museums, zoo etc. You will bound to meet people with similar interest thus you will have a lot to talk about & share similar subjects with the other person.

You have to be patient in seeking out this group of friends for they will not just fall in front of your lap. But it's better to get quality friends than friends who do not share similar interest for the friendship will be shortlived.

However you will have to be the one to make the first move to seek out this person or group of people. Visit the same place a few times & you will bound to see somewhat similar faces that goes there regularly as well. These are the people you should seek out. You can start with a few friendly smiles before moving into conversations. The main thing is not to place your hopes up too high so that if they do falls short of your expectations, you will not feel so letdown. Show some positive attitudes for when you smile, the whole world smiles with you. But if you show your depressed side, I seriously doubt you will be able to make many friends.

Just keep trying, you will definitely find them. Best of luck & take care.

Answer 2

I think its so hard to make friends because as we get older we trust less and less people after all its what we have been taught to mistrust everybody if somebody is nice to you we seem to question their motives of even a simple hello but i understand your problem I'm a 35 year old  married woman with 2 kids and barely any true friends good luck kat  

Answer 3

because people, especially in middle and high school, are labeling other people just on feeling, I have the same problem and i hope that my mom moving me 750 miles will get my mgood friends