Why is it so wrong to have s*x with someone you don't love??

Question

i guess i'm really young and i don't understand.

i understand s*x is supposed to be shared between two people who love each other and a lot of people think it should be saved for marriage. But what is so special about s*x that you should save your virginity for the "right person".

People sleep with people they don't know all the time and no harm comes of it. I don't understand why it is so wrong to lose your virginity to someone you don't love.

Please Explain this to Me. I'm obviously missing something

Answer 1

Who said it's wrong?  Like you say, people do it all the time, so go for it.  Just be safe and don't get prego.

Answer 2

The thing is, once its gone you can never have it back, and therefore never give this most precious gift away again.  You seem to think that people have s*x all the time with people they don't know with no negative effects.  Well, how about 40,000,000 babies that were killed before they were born, how about the hundreds of millions of people with STD's?  you don't see any of these as harm?

Answer 3

This is a hard question...s*x and love are entertwined in someways, and in others not connected at all....

If you are married, and want to have children, it is the act that ties it all together...

If you are not interested in children, it is a powerful physical and emotional release, that can only best be accomplished with another person.... Masturbation sometimes just doesn't cut it....

I would not recomend having s*x with strangers,there are just to many dangers in that...however good s*x does not need to involve loving the other person, liking yes, partner knowing what they are doing yes.

And unless you want to have babies, use contreception or don't have s*x...and remember, that there is always the chance that you could get pregnant... have a plan in case that happens.....

Answer 4

there is no right or wrong, just actions and consequences.

like the consequence that the other person could feel used.

Answer 5

It is not wrong, but it is not easy.  why would you want to have the experience with someone who does not care about you? the fact that you get naked and exposed with a complete stranger is not an appealing one, specially if you have no experience, because there can be many questions unanswered after it, and then if he is not there for you, who will answer them? I think the best thing to do is wait to be sure that's what you really want and the person is worthy.

it's a special moment, believe me

Answer 6

Sure there are a lot of people who have casual s*x.  But I'm not convinced it does no harm.  s*x has a tremendous bonding ability. When used casually, it loses its ability to help a couple bond and provides nothing to build the relationship.

Losing a person's virginity happens only once and is perhaps the only single personal thing a person can offer another, next to their own life.

Everything else has been given to others at one time or another.

Answer 7

"People sleep with people they don't know all the time and no harm comes of it."

VERY WRONG. Harm comes often, emotional  anguish, mental anguish, loss of self esteem.  Sacridity is lost in the habit of casual s*x. What's meant to be special between two people becomes just another thing.

Emotional/mental aspects aside, you still have the potential for unwanted pregnancies and STD's. Yes, a possibility even with condoms.

Yes, you are very young, and the media and young Hollywood has completely desensitized our culture to the issue of s*x, so I do understand how you don't understand why it's so wrong. However (and I know you hate hearing this bc I did as well), you will someday.

Answer 8

It's not necessarily wrong, just not as good!

Answer 9

Its all in what you think. If you think its wrong then it is , but i know its not good .Because your body is sacred do not give it to somebody you don't love .

s*x is not all about enjoyment it is more about showing your feelings to your partner.

somebody who don't love you cannot understand your love & cannot respect your love.

life is yours think on every step before you proceed.

Answer 10

your opinion about life n s*x does change in a great manner when u have s*x for the first time. Its a moment which i dont think one will not forget during the full life. Then why should not have these unforgetale moments to be made with your love not with strangers.

Answer 11

It's not wrong but it's a lot more pleasurable if feelings are involved. It's not because this is the first time, in general it's a lot nicer if the two people who are intimate with each other also share mutual respect and care for each other and can talk to each other and share laughs together, do other stuff together, be a part of each others lives and have feelings for one another otherwise it is a little bit like the prostitute who doesn't get paid for her services but of course if the female enjoys to have a fling and to have s*x just for the pleasure of it it's ok. There are times also when women just play the field without any serious intentions to make this into a lasting relationship. I believe every woman has the right.. and every man as long as both consent that this is just casual s*x and nothing else.  that has to be understood on both sides and that if this is the case they really practise safe s*x. Nobody wants to get pregnant from a casual affair or maybe risk a sexually transmitted disease.. therefore - Condoms every time.. otherwise I say.. everyone should do what they think is right for them.. x

Answer 12

There's nothing wrong with it at all.

Just make sure you are strong emotionally. Him too. You don't want either one of you getting attached to each other, if that's not what either one of you wanted before the s*x. Also, like most have said. Protection. No little babies running around. If all you wanted was s*x, and you get pregnant, you may never see the father again. Therefore raising the child alone.  

Answer 13

its not wrong.

the only reason why its such a big thing is because it says so in the bible.

it all comes down to you being ready and comfortable about it.

what you think is right in your heart and in your head, to be able to do it and not regret it later.

virginity is something you can never get back, there is only one first time and if you want your first time to be something you don't like to think about it cause you regret it then so be it. but its all up to you.

people sleep with people they don't know and get all kinds of std's missy!

std's = sexually transmitted diseases.

not pretty.  

use condoms!!  

Answer 14

We live in an age that treats s*x more as an animalistic desire, one that should be satisfied.  The problem becomes one of goal and focus.  If one is simply seeking s*x fulfillment than personal gratification of desire become the chief end.  When this happens one will ether use or be used by the other person in a sexual relationship.  The end result is that relationships are cheapened and weakened.  

s*x should be uplifting and an opportunity to bond with the person you love.  If s*x is used for the wrong reasons than it becomes much harder to bond and be uplifted by this union and the relationship is weakened.