Why is it that I'm such a unique guy?

Question

I'm 17 and a guy and I've asked questions about if I would make a good boyfriend or not. In these questions I talk about how plenty of guys I know use girls for s*x and don't care about them and my dad who was a bit abusive towards my mom. I've told myself that I want to be better than that and I've vowed that I would wait for the girl that I truly love to have s*x. The girl I want to be with is the girl that is cute, smart, and nice.

Anytime I talk to people about this, girls always act surprised that a guy would say things like this and that the girl that ends up with me would be the luckiest girl ever. Even though it feels good to hear that, it still makes me a little sad to know that there aren't that many guys out there that are like me. I can't understand why I'm unique and why other guys are like this. I want to know what makes a typical guy and why they act like that.

Answer 1

wow dude.

this isn't a question its a reality you typed up for a reaction.

Answer 2

Well that's very good for you. Because the typical guy hasn't gone through what you have gone through, about your dad abusing your mom. And you love your mom, so you know you're not going to do that to other women. You're more mature than some of lame pervs in this world.

You seem like a good guy. I hope you keep that vow.

Answer 3

So,

is this your way to ask for compliments?

Answer 4

Are you looking for compliments

Answer 5

Maybe cause someone needs to take away your man card and give you a nice pretty dress so you can hang out with all the girls.

Answer 6

you are a legand in your own mind

Answer 7

Coming from another guy...it is really great you think that way. The reason why most guys are not like you is because they are idiots and simply judge a girl by looks alone! Also, being able to talk about the girls you have been with or being able to tell a dirty joke is a way to impress other guys. So, that is why a lot of guys resort to this kind of behavior; it is sad and frankly stupid that people judge each other like this. At your age especially, a lot of girls will appreciate a guy with a muscular build, a sense of humor, lots of money, etc so a lot of guys strive for this more then being nice and respectful to girls.

Answer 8

I find most guys to be asssholes

so it is a treat to hear you say something thats not typically heard from guys.  I wish there were a few more like you..but then again...i like that not many are..because if someone is lucky enough to find a nice one...then its even more special..

Answer 9

I'm not trying to be rude, bud.. but you don't honestly think that's unique, do you?

What you're describing is THE ABSOLUTE MOST COMMON type of young male out there. I have a hard time understanding how you can't see this.

Look through the overwhelming majority of questions in the Singles/Dating section of this site to see what sort of questions young men post. They're all the same.

Again, I'm honestly not trying to be rude.. but you need a reality check. From the general tone of this question, I can tell that you're very likely the stereotypical "nice guy."

You said that girls always say that whoever ends up with you would be the luckiest girl ever, but none of them are dating you.. are they? What, they don't want to be the luckiest girl ever? Think about why not. It's because your current personality is *NOT* what women are looking for.

Younger women have a fairy tale concept of romance from books/kid movies/etc. that ends up being completely at odds with the sort of men they find themselves attracted to. So they'll keep saying that's who they want for a few years yet, because they think that's still what they want. But they'll never go out with a guy like that, besides to use him/play games, and ultimately they'll mature and figure out what they're really after.

They want 3 things, mostly: confidence, excitement/fun, and a man who knows who he is and what he wants out of life (aka independence/passion).

Nowhere in there does it say, "adoring fan." Or, "random person who worships me." To think that a girl wants to be treated like a little princess is a HUGE insult to her.

Think of it this way.. if someone treated you like that, insisting on seeing to all of your needs, worshiping the ground you walked on, treating you like a gentle little flower who might fall apart at the first sign of stress or hardship... yeah, you'd say "thanks, but I already have a mother.. and I'm no longer a child."

Women are the same. They want to be treated like adults. They want to have their opinions respected enough that you'll argue with them. They want counterparts. Equals. Someone they have to chase, whose love they have to earn, someone who is *worthy* of their love/respect/attention. They don't want a pushover. They don't want someone who loves them unconditionally (and therefore does not push them to better themselves).

Women are people, just like you and me. Just regular people. Nothing more, nothing less. Treat them as such.

Answer 10

lol

lots of guys are going to be saying rude things to you for that...

trust me

haha

Answer 11

sorry bro youre not unique just g*y and dont know it.

Answer 12

They act like that because they really have nothing else to do and they dont care about girls feeligs and its one of the easiest ways to loose a girl.  Its very rare to find a guy like you, you are unique because simply you care for peoples feeling.  Good job its true the girl that ends up with you is truly lucky. you are very mature..  aslo to the guys who are calling him g*y, grow up. if being an *** hole is your way of proving your "manliness" then you need a reality check, you dont want to be alone for the rest of your life...

Answer 13

Testosterone makes them act like that. It's that little Y chromosome.

But honestly, I don't think most guys are jerks. Only a few of the guys I know are unbearable. The others are more fun to hang out with than girls.

Answer 14

if you don't feel you fit in with other guys why do you worry about it ? .....Honestly this... " It makes me a little sad to know that there aren't that many guys out there that are like me " ..c**p is the reason you are worried that you are not normal....and with that attitude, i don't think you're normal either......get laid, j/o ..find another boy ..something.

Answer 15

yeah most guys are jerks..im gonna wait until i find  the right guy before i have s*x im going on 17 in about 6 months and most of my friends are not virgins and they're always like omg u need to have s*x its great..well i think s*x should be sumthing u should do with the person u love and knows they actually loves u....i think its great that ur waiting for the right girl to have s*x with....ur right there isnt that many guys out there like u...most of my ex boyfriends tried to get me to have s*x with them but i didnt i told them no and most of them broke up w/me or cheated on me

Answer 16

My boyfriend is like you, he's loyal, I'm lucky

Answer 17

You are too high and mighty to understand the typical.

Get over yourself or you will die alone.

Answer 18

guys that abuse girls arent men. what makes a man is putting his lady first. going out of his way to do things for her. treating her like a queen. being romantic. taking care of her when she's sick. never cheating. liking more about her than her body. all these things make a real man

Answer 19

idk, a lot of guys are pigs. im right there with ya though. im 14 and bisexual so im more just like whatever cause people are really biast but w/e

there's nothing wrong with you

at all. don't worry about it. :]