Why is it that I can never be happy?

Question

I always find myself so unhappy with everything. My life isn't too bad. I feel like I have things that should make me happy, but I just am NEVER happy. I feel miserable. I just hate the place I live, and where I'm at. I see happy people, and i just want to be happy. I feel like I'm searching and searching for something, I just don't know what that thing is and I can't find it!

Answer 1

1. Work a job that makes you happy.

2. Then take vacations.

3. Take dance lessons regularly.

4. Take up a hobby which requires physical endurance, this will also boost your endorphins.

5. Diet is very important, try eating rice or pasta somewhat separately from meat and vegetables.  But eat rice or pasta as your second meal, not at night.  You will have to change your energy cycles possibly.  Try a high proteen diet with fresh vegetables.  Do not eat fast food ever, unless it is good food like Thai or Indian.

6. Minimize TV watching to probably no more than 2 hours a week, minimize listening to music on the radio except if you are dancing to it, and...

7. read books non-fiction biography, ...

8. Play a musical instrument.

9. Go to shows, dance performances, live classical music concerts.

10. Do volunteer work, feed the homless that kind of thing.

11. read book entitled "67 ways to good sleep"

12. Visit friends.  Join social groups.

Well those are the things I do to stay happy and fulfilled, and I also write.

Answer 2

Are you truly unhappy, or is it that your feelings about things are muted? Being unhappy or sad is different than being numb. But as one reply you've received mentioned, happiness won't come from outside/material things. True happiness comes from inside and being comfortable in your own skin, and finding that level of happiness is a journey you have to make for yourself. Another thing that can affect you are the people you have in your life. As they can be like weights or anchors.

I think a lot of people go through a similar experience, so you aren't alone there. And many of the happy people you see aren't as happy as they appear. Many are masking their unhappiness with material things or false outward appearances for they don't want others to know they are unhappy.

You've at least initiated getting "out of the funk" by seeking a reason or answer on why you feel the way you do. I hope you find the answer you need.

Answer 3

Then make the choice to do so.  It is YOUR CHOICE and no one, or nothings ....just yours. Do it now.  

Answer 4

You have happiness because you are a child. You cannot obtain what you already have.

Answer 5

We are creatures of insatiable appetites. When we gain, we crave more and are never contented. Perhaps that is what you are asking:

"Why am I never contented with or in life?"

Consider the business tycoons like Trump, who marry several times and achieve corporeal greatness, but never cease. They could stop earning and live a wealthy life and leave an inheritance, but never stop. We, as human beings, understand the notion of emptiness that transcends the natural, which drives us to endlessly and, often, recklessly seek out contentment through luxurious items and various gains through parties and friends, yet that appetite is never sated.

Do not be fooled, though. Many, if not most, of the people with a smile on their faces are not content or happy, but feeling a quick moment of pleasure. Perhaps the Teacher had it right in that all things man seeks out is a "chasing after the wind," unless it is done while rest in God. Christ Jesus has provided that philosophical fulfillment to the heart of man for nearly two thousand years. Think about it.

Peace and love in His,

Phillip

http://www.myspace.com/ministeringinlove

Answer 6

Happiness=reality/expectation. Obviously, if your reality is far better than your expectation, you will score over 1. Which is the ultimate happiness rating. If your reality sucks and your expectation is way high, you will never be happy. Maybe it's time you reassessed your expectations in life and your reality and see the practicality of some of your goals/expectations?

Answer 7

I feel exactly the same. I have discovered happiness doesn't exist-It's an illusion. The concept of happiness is necessary though and people need to chase the impossible ideal.

Contentment excists and when found is perminent. The concept of happiness is transient and conditioned.

Searching for something?-Is it purpose? It is in my case. All purpose-Like raising children or careers etc are human made. You may be looking for real purpose that we as humans didn't create. That may be spirtual or something(I don't mean religious)

Whatever it is you are searching for I hope you find it, But what I say is don't look for it because you may be tricked-It has to find you. You sound intellegent so I know you will find it, but don't put a time limit on it.

Really good luck with it and feel free to email.

GSTOKES

Answer 8

Remember that you are in control and you cannot control what others do, but rather how you react to external situations.  So happiness is internal.  And try doing an activity that is completely altruistic in nature, such as volunteering at a soup kitchen or volunteering at a children's hospital.  

Answer 9

that's something for you to firgure it out because none of us could tell which one you like to do and you don't like to do

Answer 10

You're depending on outside sources for your happiness. And outside sources will always let you down because they change. True happiness comes from inside. Only when you are content with yourself can you appreciate the things around you. Let go of your expectations, your insecurities. That "thing" you search for is within you.

Answer 11

figured out how to be happy working customer service... your supposed to be happy... "service with a smile"... so even when we were having an awful day we had to pretend to be happy... by the end of our shift we’d be happy… maybe we’re happy because we’re done work… or maybe by pretending to be happy we became happy… is like a light switch now… happy on happy off… the key is in hyper focusing… chasing that rabbit so to speak… uses the same techniques to fall asleep if we’re trying to sleep and we’re not tired… just think of happy little thought any happy little thought… chasseing memories of feelings…