Why is it that everytime someone comes into my life they always end up leaving me some way or another??

Question

in elemtary school i got picked on so much

in the middle school i was going to phases and had friends that told me at the end of the school year in front of a lot of people that they never liked me and they were only using me so they wont be loners

in high schol i wasnt a loner but i felt that all my friends were temporary and never really had someone i could go to

recently i have bf that i have been for about 2 years and know he wants to leave me because he said that the way i am is pushing him away but he doesnt want to like he being honest to me

im just really tired of being like here and there im not depressed or anything im just wondering why this is happening to me and like i want to fix this about me like i dont know if its me or other people. like yeah i just feel real alone and like i dont know im the only one that feels this

what should i do?

oh yeah im 17

Answer 1

You know, am 31 and even at at this age and all my years b4 this, I have realized that people come and go in life. It's the way life is. Some people stick around for long, others don't. I have learned now to not have expectations, and to just enjoy the present with that person. Who knows bout tomorrow? It's the nature of life - things keep changing. People keep evolving. Some grow together. Others grow apart. Just enjoy the present with the person. And always know, that there's always something u can learn from anyone and everyone that enters ur life or leaves it. Work on urself and what u think u can improce on, but u don't have to take things too personally either. People leave for their own reasons, many u don't even have control of. Maybe u can even visit a counselor and get all ur important questions answered. Take care..!  

Answer 2

Your need for the friend was greater than their need for you as a friend. That is not meant to be hurtful but rather reflects the diversity of where we are at as individuals. You are whole and complete and don't require approval from others. Most people have to try meeting different groups of people to find like minded friends. Sports or hobbies are a great place to start looking.

Answer 3

You are not the only person who feels like this. My cousin has complained to me about the same thing.

After high school her friends didn't call her to hang out anymore after they got cars too. And now I am pretty much her only friend.

The important thing to know is that this doesn't "HAPPEN TO YOU". You make choices and decisions also when it comes to choosing your friends and lovers.

Are you looking to be part of a specific crowd? Or misjudge ppl by appearance?

In a bf, do you focus more on the physical than on the intelectual or spiritual?

It isn't ppl doing this to you. You are in control.

Answer 4

i know how u feel but way older like 37 i feel like friends should always be friends but in the longrun they r no such of a thing its like the world is against me win or lose im at the point i just stay by myself even in a crowd im really alone u know like if ppl say oh im ur friend 9times outta 10 they either need or want something so i just sit online sometimes 21 or 22 hrs a day depends mostly on whats tempting my mind i will look it up and read it not just 1 site but all of them from different points of view---to me alone in life is like Red Hot Chilli Peppers song By The Way thats my song i want to tell some1 but i dont cause its no big deal right

Answer 5

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Answer 6

People are always going to come and go in your life. Some will  touch your life and change it, in either a large or small way. We are all a sum of our experiences, and how we dealt with them. Hang on to the people who treat you right, let go of the ones who don't, and strive to be the kind of person you would want to be.  Right now there is a lot going on in your life, try to remember this too is only temporary. Remember that hanging on too tight will make a person want to flee. Just enjoy the good that life sends you and shake off the bad stuff.