Why is it that guys are able to do this?

Question

Why is it that with some girls, no matter how much a guy treates them like cr*p, no matter how much sh*t they put up with, how many tears and misery they've experienced over them, they just can't seem to break it off and keep forgiving them over and over again?

I just don't know what to do anymore :(

Answer 1

He invested what is called "work" into her,...this is what we call "him putting in work", the more he puts in, i.e. taking u out, sharing his time, dates, s*x(this especially), time out to charm and make u feel good about yourself. The harder it will be for that female to want to breakup with this guy, because life without this conditioning of the female seems somehow harder. They are what we call suckers, and love isn't real its a mental game, that can be permenant, if the female is liked past a certain point.

Answer 2

Cause she likes the abuse!

Answer 3

i think girls stay with crappy guys for a variety of reasons

* they feel like if they break up they will have nobody

* some girls are afraid to break up cuz he might do something to her

* some girls like the drama of it all

* some girls don't know what a real relationship should look like

Answer 4

Stop putting asterisks in your curse words, break it off, and move on with your life.

Answer 5

I think it is a self worth issue some women are afraid to be alone and would rather put up with not being treated well than think of the prospect of being by themselves.

Answer 6

Because you probably had a poor self esteem to start with and this person who also has an even poorer self esteem and uses the power that they feel over another person to make that person feel even less good about them self

If this is your relationship then you need to pluck up the courage to break it off and to tell yourself that you are a good person and do not deserve this type of treatment

This website has some really good advice on it - perhaps it may be of use to you

Good luck and dont forget to remind yourself that you are a worthy person and CAN DO IT

Answer 7

is your question about guys or girls?

Answer 8

because guys who treat them mean, keep the girls keen.

Answer 9

Get some self esteem and some pride.

Answer 10

because you are trapped and they convince you that its all your own fault "you are making yourself cry". You have to stay away and hide (don't pick up ur phone, refuse to see them, block them on messenger, ignore emails, delete from facebook). When you get the courage to do this, you will sigh in relief and your life will get happier each day..

Answer 11

Some girls, when they get in a relationship, are much more emotionally attached to the guy. It's just the way the female brain operates. The guy would not care at all and can be abusive, and even get out of the relationship with less serious repercussions. And usually, when the girl has experienced many hardships with him, it's almost like "Hey, I've worked so hard to get this far, I can't give up now, maybe he will change, maybe he won't, but I will stick with him to the end, and I know that he will love me in the end" Seriously, I've had encounters with friends who had this situation before. My advice is for the girl to just dump him. But maybe before that, find out why the guy is abusive. It might not be the girl's fault. It could be trouble within the guy's life. Who knows.

I'm not speaking for all girls with this type of situation. I'm simply stating what I've encountered and observed.

Answer 12

i don't know but i agree, don't know if this question is about you or a friend, but its usually related to low self confidence and self worth. when someone we love does something to hurt us we rationalise it, 'maybe its something i've done' or an out side influence like work etc, but its always best to stand in front of a mirror, say to yourself that you are brilliant there is only one of you, you deserve respect and to be treated how you treat people and worth more then some lad making you cry, think would he put up with what you have endured, if the answer is no??? then tell him and give a last chance, happens again walk, its the only way he will learn. its always good if it is a mate to take her out and get her flirting to show her there are other fish in the sea!! good luck

Answer 13

He's a jerk and a lot of women LOVE the jerks.  Fact or women..

Nothing you can do.

Your going to have to put up with all the sobbing on your shoulder, the constant complaining about him til the end of the relationship if it ever comes and then again with the next guy and the next and the next

Answer 14

It's only because woman are great forgivers and are really usually hopeful the guys will change for real.But to overcome such hurdles woman should learn to be independent (of men) and have the ability to decide thier destiny  

Answer 15

Guys who do this have the girl's self esteem so beaten down that they believe anything the guy says.  The guy then has the upper hand to do almost anything he wants to.  He can just verbally abuse her more to win the argument.

(LEAVE HIM).

Answer 16

because some people (girls and guys) can see the best in people and not the bad...its a tricky situation coz there can be connection that exexistsetween people...but just rerememberhe ones we care about most are the ones we hurt...

Answer 17

Its because guys focus on the now and girls focus on what it could be. You should focus on the now not tomorrow. YOU do something today that makes YOU happy instead of waiting for someone or something to make you happy.  

Answer 18

I think you really need to ask this to yourself....

If the 'Girl' mentioned in your question - she is still in the nut shell...

Come out of that and see the world

There are people who can

understand you better

love you better,

care you better

comfort you better

laugh you better

respect you better

Don’t ever think that you are breaking the relation by telling your likes and dislikes, rather that help you to live a better tomorrow in much better way. We all are human,

if you didn’t get what you expect in life even after you give what ever you have for your love what is the point of living that life.

You are the only person in this world who really think of yourself

Nobody else will do that not even you mother or children or lover or what ever the person you can define in that place. Because everyone living their own life

I am not telling to respect others feeling.

Of course you have to respect others feeling but at the same time you have to live you life the way you wish to live

All the very best