Why is it that i have trouble connecting with people?

Question

Why is it that I have trouble connecting with people?

Do you think that it is because people have a problms with friendly people?

Answer 1

If you are seeing this is trouble, then it's possible that you are putting effort into it.  When you put effort into connecting, then somewhere you are not relaxed and comfortable being yourself.  See if that is so.  There are people you'll connect to naturally, and then there are those that don't have the same chemistry.  It does not mean there is something wrong with you or them.  It's just that way.  But accept yourself first and don't worry about what it takes to connect with people.  It only happens when you are being you.  Remember, this is not about trying...learning to "do", but simply being.  Being comes from the heart.  It's the part of you that does not use logic...but just being.

Answer 2

People love to hear their own name and talk about themselves.  When you look at it that way, then imagine that you're really interested in someone almost like an interviewer might be but not so strong.  The fact is you might fatten up your own intellect by getting other people's input.  Nobody ever won office by not knowing the needs and business of his/her constituents, not that you're running for office, just for friends and respect.

Answer 3

no, more likely it is your skills when attempting to connect.  

try to improve your communications skills.  maybe you are coming on too strong or intense.  maybe you are getting too intimate too soon or something.  maybe you are intruding on people's lives.  you need to find out what you're doing that blocks the connection.  i recommend "nonviolent communication, the language of love" by marshall rosenberg to learn to connect much better with people.  learn empathy and reflective listening skills.

Answer 4

you are probably focusing too hard on making a connection. Sometimes it takes time. I have had a couple of friends for a few years now that I still feel I dont have that super connection with, but the more you spend time together and experience life together the more connections you make. In the meantime, when trying to connect with another person, just listen to what they have to say and respond to them in a similar manner in the way you feel. Sometimes you will find something there, sometimes not. Even if you disagree you still might enjoy eachothers company and outlook on life.

No one has a problem with friendly people, maybe you are just so set on finding that connection that you come off needy, clingy, or kind of wierd???

Answer 5

open your mind, listen more, don't judge, stay calm, and smile a lot (even when you are offended).

these are whats i do.

but some people can be real pain, it'd be great if you can just ignore them. people have good side and bad side.