Why is it that men eyes are not satisfied?

Question

I want to be careful how I word this because I know some men are not like this, but my question is if a man has a good wife and his needs are met at least 4-5X a week and she cooks and cleans for him and prays for her spouse. WHY is it that men need to look at other woman, How come some men who have nice builds feel entitled to stare at other ladies like in a skimpy outfit or a bathing suit and make it obvious? I know someone who wont share the problem he has with lust to the men at his church group not because he is embarrassed but because he does NOT want to give this sin up. What can a lady do who cant be in competition with these woman if she is even unable to be a size 12? I do get scared because adultry starts with a look and

is progressive. I was cheated on with an ex boyfriend and that was devistating. Do you have any helful answers and please no mean, sarcastic or spiteful answers. e4g

Answer 1

to be frank,some men have a subconscious habit of wanting to make their wifes jealous.most men will deny it to the death because they are not intouch with their subconscious but its true. or they test them to see if they really care about them. its really messed up and i dont think any girl deserves it especially if they work so hard to keep him happy. i know it would be pretty brutal but i would straight up talk to him about it and tell him how it makes you feel and if he acts immature about it then leave him.i know thats easyer said then done  but if it was me i wouldnt put up with it. even though men are naturally horney 24/7 they need to be able to control their sexdrives/themselves.

i hope this has helped you in some way im pretty tired right now so please forgive my typos and poor advice.

i wish you the best of luck!

--lance

Answer 2

I am with you on this...i don't have an answer though...Pisses me off too...

Answer 3

You need to find men who are like Job. (Job 31:1 1   I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?) Most if not every man is going to automatically look at women. Even some g**s look at women - who do you think does ladies' fashions?  But, they CAN choose to look away.

The key is self-control. Men who prefer love and are mature are going to know themselves enough to *not* stare, fantasize and eventually commit adultery. Men who are interested in themselves and immature are going to lust freely and think it's OK and natural. Of course it will bite them in the butt eventually. Lust out of control is a thorn in anyone's side.

All you can do is pray for your friend. Nagging and criticism won't help, sadly. And, your relationship with him is only going to suffer. You can still be a friend to him but you might want to put some distance between you, and find some new friends in addition.

Answer 4

Unfortunately, this is all too common now.

Answer 5

men can't be satisfy themselves so for us women all we have to do is do are best to attract their attention back to us and make them feel that its you the one who love and make him number one

Answer 6

Really, a man is never satisfied with self.  Just do your best to please.   Your best is all said and done.   What ever you did to get him, probably will be the same to keep him.

Answer 7

It is called basic biology. You need to go to the nearest high school and ask them if you can borrow one of their books. Usually, this is taught on the 9th grade level. Once you understand that there are some instincts that are hard wired into the human animal, you will understand a lot more than just this one point.

Answer 8

  OK then let me tell you how that works for me, I do look if I see something attractive I look women do this to, However I don't stare at women but I do look and If most women would be secure enough to notice I also look at other things that are attractive, not that you would often hear a woman complaining that every car turns their mans head , or have you ever elbowed your man to get his attention when your in the home depot. a lot of things in there turn my head too. but you don't feel threatened by tools or cars, but let us notice another girl or woman who just spent an hour dressing to impress and we are now seething heathens with no control.

  And don't think we don't notice when your checking out the butt on our waiter. or peeking through the drapes to get a peek at the landscaper we see ..

Answer 9

Looking is not a sin and looking does not lead to cheating. I am sorry you were cheated on but a cheater cheats.

Looking is harmless. I look at hot guys and hot girls... Maybe i am a sinner but i love myself and my husband and we have a wonderful loving open relationship and great communication.

I even point chicks out some times. the other day we were walking in a casino on our vacation and this women at the poker table had the most amazing rack. i tried to be discreet and et him know but he missed it 8(. Darn.

May be i am weird. but i know he will never cheat on me. We have both been cheated on in the past. And i know he loves me. i am not the hottest girl, but i know he loves me for me not just the way i look.  

Answer 10

all your going to get is for answers is...its just how men are...and its not a crime to look!...but men are nasty...they have been told so much that its just "how men are" that they believe its ok...

Answer 11

It sounds like the fear and anxiety of your past relationships where someone hurt you is affecting you current relationship.  From what you said it seems like you feel he is going to cheat and so you will see it from that perspective.  I don't feel looking at a beautiful woman is a sin, depending on what my intentions are.  If they're nothing more than appreciating a beautiful woman then that is that.  Let him know that when he stares it makes you feel unattractive and worry some and then let it go.  Have some trust unless there is definite reasons not to, but if you are creating something from nothing due to your fears then your just creating more problems as well.

Answer 12

No matter how hard we might try, we can not control what others do or think.  

You must stop being fearful.  Place your trust, in Jesus Christ.  Make Jesus your first relationship and all others will follow.  

Your confidence is because of your relationship with Christ.  When a husband sees you as confident and not trying to change him, he gains a new prospective to you.  It is not about what size your are or how you look.  It is about how you and Jesus feel about you.  

The more you talk to him about this and the more you show lack of confidence, this is a turn off for him.  Do tell him that his disrespect for you is not acceptable and if he continues to disrespect you, you will need to step out of the picture for at least a while to show him that you won't put up with it.

Remember what drew him to you in the first place.  Wasn't it because you had fun together and  respected eachother?

Answer 13

WORK ON YOU....INSIDE YOU NEED TO FEEL AND TELL YOURSELF YOU ARE THE BEST THING GOD HAS CREATED AND YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT...START THERE...AND PRAY FOR YOURSELF...THE BIBLE SAYS DAVID ENCOURAGED HIMSELF IN THE LORD...STOP PUTTING YOUR HOPES IN MAN ONLY TO BE LET DOWN..LET GOD BE YOUR BAROMETER..NOT THE GALS IN THE SKIMPY CLOTHES...MOST LIKELY THEY HAVE PAST ISSUES NOT DEALT WITH AND THEY ARE DRESSING LIKE THAT TO GET ANY KIND OF ATTENTION..DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF TO THEM..THEY ARE HURTING..PRAY FOR THEM AND LOVE YOU..GOD MADE ALL SIZES AND THATS WHAT MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND..DIFFERENT SHAPES AND SIZES AND FACES AND COLORS AND GOD DONT MAKE NO JUNK..SO BE PROUD OF GODS MASTERPIECE...YOU!!!!...BE BLESSED ..THIS IS JUST THE ENEMY HAND THIS ONE OVER TO GOD..  

Answer 14

everyone glances at beauty, period. as long as the man/woman is not LUSTING over the woman/man, its okay to notice. I may just be very lucky to have a man who loves me fully and completely and has no desire for other women... If I see a beautiful woman with....bigger than average..you know... :P.... then I comment. May as well get it out in the open, everyone is thinking it, I may as well make it a joke, and understand it is natural to notice, part of being human.... I'm not saying its okay for a married man to drool over another woman, that is what i call lusting, but if he happens to glance, oh well. He knows I can't help but glance at positively manly muscular men.... I don't lust after them, I don't daydream about them, etc....it's just like "woah" weather its a hot guy or girl...then move on....  

Answer 15

i like looking at other men, i'm just looking. things are just pleasing to the eyes.

Answer 16

Unfortunately that's just the way some men are. Some more then others. Some women do the same to men, though.

I don't know what to tell you, (what's a size 12?),  just believe in yourself more. God loves you just the way you are.After all, He made you.

God bless you! <><

Answer 17

I must be different because It doesnt bother me. I am completely committed to my fiance but I look too. It doesnt mean anything, its just human nature. Seeing a beautiful woman is like seeing a corvette with all the curves in the right places. If you have complete trust in your relationship, those things are so trivial.

Answer 18

GOD GAVE US EYES TO SEE NOT TO STARE UNCONTROLLABLY AT FEMALES IN SKIMPY CLOTHINGS, WHICH SO MANY MEN DO, YES, IT IS DISTASTEFUL WHEN THAT IS DONE ESPECIALLY WHILE IN YOUR PRESENCE. MEN AND WOMEN LOOK AT THE OPPOSITE s*x, THAT'S REALITY, BUT NOT TO TAKE IT OUT OF CONTEXT BY STARING LUSTFULLY. BECAUSE OF THE FEMALES THAT DRESSES UNAPPROPRIATE OR SKIMPY MEN WILL LOOK CAUSE IT IS IN HIS FACE, IT'S OKAY TO LOOK, BUT HE SHOULDN'T STARE IN A DAZED STATE, THAT WOULD BE DISRESPECTFUL. REALLY IT IS JUST OUR HUMANLY NATURE TO REACT IN THIS MANNER

Answer 19

I can only speak for myself but it doesn't bother me if my H looks at another woman.  But IMO there is a difference between LOOKING and STARING.  

I know what he is attracted too, so most times I see "his type" walking towards us before he does.  Will he look?  More that likely but it is very subtle and he never stares.  Staring is disrespectful.

I think it is asking a bit much to NOT want him to look.  He is married NOT dead.  Besides, I may look at an attractive man myself.  No big.  God knows I am not dreaming of the man.