Why is it that men only do what they want to do?

Question

My boyfriend is going to see one of his mates tonight instead of coming with me to organise our new sofa.

But when I wanted to meet one of my friends the other weekend, which I had organised, he decided at the last minute we needed to sort out a kitchen and I had to cancel.

He can't come tonight because he told his mate he would go. He is more interested in seeing his mate than sorting out our house!

I'm so p**sed off with him at the minute. Am I over-reacting?

Answer 1

Because they are men and women let them away with too much lol

Answer 2

lol girls always think that if they are with a guy who isn't whipped. The minute he doesn't do exactly what they want he's being selfish and childish. Nothing new there

Answer 3

No your not!! Men act like pigs & everything & everyone comes before the gf! U get yourself out & have a ladies night!

Answer 4

no you are not over-reacting you are being taken advantage of so the next time you have the opportunity to go hang with your friends do not allow him to find a reason that you cannot go stick up for yourself and do what you want to do he does

Answer 5

I would say yes because that sorting a house is not a man's favorite pass time, but because he did the same thing to you, it's different. That was unfair of him. Talk to him about it. If he is allowed to see his friend you she be allowed to see yours.  

Answer 6

Try to not worry about it. Getting yourself all angry and frustrated won't change things.

You could try to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. But, if you're not careful there's a risk that this could erupt into a big argument.

Or you could, just leave it. If it happens again talk to him about it. But, don't bring up when you cancelled on your friends for him because the past is the past and there's no use dwelling on what can't be changed.

Good luck x =)

Answer 7

Nope, I do not think you are over reacting at all.

I think, from what you've described here, he is playing vary unfairly with you.

If you explain to him what you've explained here, then I think he should re-think his behaviour.  If not, then you have every right to re-think about what is and is NOT right for you and what you are prepared to put up with.

Good luck.

Sash.

Post Script:  I'm sorry if this comes as bad news to you, but ...it is NOT only men who behave as you've described here, that other lot do it too.

Answer 8

SOME men.  And some women, too.

Do not judge us all by your inconsiderate bloke.

He needs kicking into touch.

Answer 9

This is the theory I try to live by. " Men do what they want to do".. period. What you should do - next time- is keep with your plans. Let him know it's not fair what he did. It's a double standard. So.. it shows you that next time.. you will stick to your original plans as well.. and will not cancel for him. It seems minute- but this would get me pissed off too! So-- do the same to him.  

Answer 10

No.

He was unfair, immature and selfish.

This has nothing to do with the s*x of the person that is getting to do what they want. It takes two people to make a couple. Sometimes you compromise, and that's ok. But he has to too.

So girls, cut the c**p about how men get to do what they want to do, and stop whining about how poor little me has to change my plans. If he wants to be an a**, and you let him get away with it ....

Answer 11

you need to put things straight with him...i'm really mad at my fiance right now because he forgot that we were supposed to be spending time together last night :(...just tell him you're not impressed with him right now

Answer 12

It sounds like you are in an unbalanced sexist relationship.

When you had plans with your friends, and he told you he wanted to sort the kitchen, you should have simply told him that you already had plans.  But instead he selfishly ruined your plans, but when the boot is on the other foot, he will not change his plans for you.

It doesn't seem fair, because it isn't.  You need to make him understand that the relationship is supposed to be give and take on each side, not do whatever the h**l you like all the time.

If both parties are not willing to make sacrifice and compromise in a relationship, there is going to be a problem.